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Sex for Saints · April 24 · 35 min

Episode 418 - Your Wife Isn't A Problem To Solve

What if the very thing you're doing to improve your sex life is actually making it worse? In this episode, I'm breaking down the "fix-it" mentality so many men bring into their relationship and why it creates pressure, shame, and disconnection instead of desire. I share what to do instead, including how to be present, listen without trying to solve, and approach intimacy as a team. We also talk about what this shift looks like in real conversations and how both partners can take ownership of their part. When you stop trying to fix your spouse and start truly seeing them, you create the conditions where real connection and desire can grow.

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What if the very thing you're doing to improve your sex life is actually making it worse? In this episode, I'm breaking down the "fix-it" mentality so many men bring into their relationship and why it creates pressure, shame, and disconnection instead of desire. I share what to do instead, including how to be present, listen without trying to solve, and approach intimacy as a team. We also talk about what this shift looks like in real conversations and how both partners can take ownership of their part. When you stop trying to fix your spouse and start truly seeing them, you create the conditions where real connection and desire can grow.