Why Can't They Just Do It?

How many times has your AuDHD child missed a deadline, or simply not done something really important?

Spoiler alert: they’re not lazy or naughty, because neurodivergent brains do not process things in the same way. Their reward system is entirely different. And their executive dysfunction can make even the most straightforward tasks feel impossible.

I am joined by Nicola McAllister, a specialist in child development and founder of The Regulated Child, to break down why our children can’t just do the thing.

Nicola explains her ‘brain house’ model that she uses to understand and support neurodiverse brains, and why simply telling a neurospicy brain to do something is not only unhelpful, but might actually make a frustrating situation even worse.

Together, Dr. Olivia and Nicole discuss:
 ✨ how to understand the neurodiverse brain

 ✨ the regulate, relate, reason framework

 ✨ why consequences don’t work with ADHD

 ✨ practical tools to help you work through the wobbles

🤝Contact Nicola and find out more about her work at https://www.regulatedchild.co.uk/ 

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