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Queer Collective Podcast · Thursday · 1 hr 7 min

Why Neurodivergent Dating Feels Impossible

Your crush takes three hours to text back, and suddenly your brain has written, directed and cancelled the entire relationship. We’re unpacking queer neurodivergent dating, sex and intimacy with psychotherapist Frankie Talon Rose: rejection sensitivity, limerence, masking, sensory overload, autistic flirting, kink, consent and the ADHD brain thinking about laundry mid-hookup. From AuDHD dating chaos to shutdowns in long-term relationships, this is a practical, spicy guide to building love around the brain you actually have, not the neurotypical fantasy you were handed. Direct communication has never been hotter. FREE TOYS OR GIFT CARDS FOR TOYS! Everyone who signs up to our giveaway with @bellesaco wins something! https://www.shopbboutique.co/vibe/queercollective-yt Join Our Patreon: https://patreon.com/QueerCollective Beducated: https://beduc.at/pd2631-queercollective TomboyX code: code QUEER15 for 15% off your order https://tomboyx.com/ Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Watch In The Closet: https://youtu.be/MO6d8iz8Pn4?si=MnGNx4VA7kpyyDuu CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com 00:00 Why Queer People Are More Likely to Be Autistic 02:26 Autism Self-Diagnosis vs. Formal Diagnosis 04:52 How Autism–Trans Research Gets Weaponized 06:24 What Is AuDHD? Autism + ADHD Explained 12:00 Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria in Dating 19:59 Limerence, Hyperfixation & Obsessive Crushes 26:31 Autistic Flirting & the Double Empathy Problem 32:21 Sensory Overload on First Dates 37:41 Masking and Unmasking in Relationships 41:53 Autistic Meltdowns: How Partners Can Help 46:11 ADHD, Hypersexuality & Sexual Impulsivity 50:00 Why ADHD Brains Get Distracted During Sex 55:12 Autism, Kink & Sensory Needs in Bed 59:52 AAC and Nonverbal Consent During Sex 1:03:37 Neurodivergent Shame, Sex & Self-Acceptance Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

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Your crush takes three hours to text back, and suddenly your brain has written, directed and cancelled the entire relationship. We’re unpacking queer neurodivergent dating, sex and intimacy with psychotherapist Frankie Talon Rose: rejection sensitivity, limerence, masking, sensory overload, autistic flirting, kink, consent and the ADHD brain thinking about laundry mid-hookup. From AuDHD dating chaos to shutdowns in long-term relationships, this is a practical, spicy guide to building love around the brain you actually have, not the neurotypical fantasy you were handed. Direct communication has never been hotter.

FREE TOYS OR GIFT CARDS FOR TOYS! Everyone who signs up to our giveaway with @bellesaco wins something! https://www.shopbboutique.co/vibe/queercollective-yt
Join Our Patreon: https://patreon.com/QueerCollective
Beducated: https://beduc.at/pd2631-queercollective
TomboyX code: code QUEER15 for 15% off your order https://tomboyx.com/
Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer
Watch In The Closet: https://youtu.be/MO6d8iz8Pn4?si=MnGNx4VA7kpyyDuu

CONTACT US
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/
Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/
Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/
Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com

00:00 Why Queer People Are More Likely to Be Autistic
02:26 Autism Self-Diagnosis vs. Formal Diagnosis
04:52 How Autism–Trans Research Gets Weaponized
06:24 What Is AuDHD? Autism + ADHD Explained
12:00 Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria in Dating
19:59 Limerence, Hyperfixation & Obsessive Crushes
26:31 Autistic Flirting & the Double Empathy Problem
32:21 Sensory Overload on First Dates
37:41 Masking and Unmasking in Relationships
41:53 Autistic Meltdowns: How Partners Can Help
46:11 ADHD, Hypersexuality & Sexual Impulsivity
50:00 Why ADHD Brains Get Distracted During Sex
55:12 Autism, Kink & Sensory Needs in Bed
59:52 AAC and Nonverbal Consent During Sex
1:03:37 Neurodivergent Shame, Sex & Self-Acceptance


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