Psychology at Work | Career Success, Leadership, Communication Skills

Melody Wilding, LMSW

How do you nail that sweet spot of career success where confidence in yourself meets influence with others? That's what best-selling author, therapist, and executive coach Melody Wilding explores in every episode of Psychology at Work.

If you're a driven professional who's great at your job but knows that talent alone isn't enough to get ahead, this show is for you. Subscribe for insightful, practical advice on topics ranging from office politics, communication and executive presence, managing up, emotional intelligence, self-advocacy, and more.

Advance your career, strengthen your leadership, and feel calmer, clearer, and more in control while doing it.

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Wednesday · 39 min
115. Build a Team That Takes Ownership & Doesn’t Depend on YOU for Answers with Michael Bungay Stanier
How do you get your team to be more resourceful? What’s the best way to help people think for themselves before they come to you? And how do you stop being the person everyone relies on for the answer without becoming hands-off, unavailable, or unclear? In this episode, Melody sits down with Michael Bungay Stanier, author of The Coaching Habit (+1 million copies sold) to talk about how busy leaders can build smarter, more capable, lower-drama teams through becoming more coach-like. You’ll Discover: The 4-word question to open every 1:1 with — that finally gets past the canned update The phrase Michael calls "possibly the best coaching question in the world" (and why you should ask it multiple times in a row) The #1 thing to say when a meeting is going off the rails to get your team back on track How to coach UP the chain of command, even with executives levels above you About Michael Michael Bungay Stanier is best known for The Coaching Habit, the best-selling coaching book of the century. His other books include How to Work with (Almost) Anyone, which is about building the Best Possible Relationship with key people at work. He’s part of the MasterClass faculty, and is the host of the Change Signal podcast. Michael was a Rhodes Scholar, and was recently admitted as a Thinkers50 Coaching Legend (“the Oscars of Management”). Learn more at MBS.works. https://melodywilding.com/training Connect with Melody: FREE NEWSLETTER: Psychology at Work Weekly Get on the Waitlist for Speak Like a Senior Leader™ Get on the Waitlist for Lead from Within Get Melody's new book, Managing Up
July 23 · 32 min
114. How to Turn a High-Stakes Stretch Into a Promotion Accelerator
🚨CLOSING: Apply for the final Lead from Within cohort of 2026 by Sunday July 26th 11:59pm ET: https://melodywilding.com/lfw Certain stretches of your career are compressed. The reputation you'd normally build over 18 months of steady work gets decided in a matter of weeks. Handle it well and you accelerate onto the shortlist for the next role. In this episode, engineering manager Alejandro walks through how he used a high-stakes product launch to accelerate his own path to the next level. https://melodywilding.com/training Connect with Melody: FREE NEWSLETTER: Psychology at Work Weekly Get on the Waitlist for Speak Like a Senior Leader™ Get on the Waitlist for Lead from Within Get Melody's new book, Managing Up
July 20 · 39 min
113. Are You Executive-Ready? Here's the Real Test [MINI MASTERCLASS]
🚨APPLICATIONS CLOSING 🚨Apply for the final Lead from Within of 2026 by Sunday July 26th 11:59pm ET: https://melodywilding.com/lfw This is a mini masterclass on the four pillars of executive readiness. These are the things no business school will teach you, no performance review captures, no leadership book breaks down with this level of specificity. Melody walks you through all four, with a clear diagnostic as to where you stand and what’s holding you back before year-end opportunities get decided without you. What You’ll Discover: ▪️Three levels of visibility every stakeholder sits on – and why only ONE gets you championed for bigger roles ▪️ One script that took a field marketing function from "the booth people" to a recognized business driver within 90 days ▪️ A subtle psychology trick an incoming executive used to keep her predecessor from undermining her ▪️The two-week team management test 90% of leaders fail (and what to do ASAP) https://melodywilding.com/training Connect with Melody: FREE NEWSLETTER: Psychology at Work Weekly Get on the Waitlist for Speak Like a Senior Leader™ Get on the Waitlist for Lead from Within Get Melody's new book, Managing Up
July 15 · 2 hr
112. Top of Mind & Tapped for More [FULL TRAINING]
📢 NOW OPEN: Apply for the final Lead from Within cohort of 2026: https://melodywilding.com/lfw Whether you want to position yourself for a promotion, step into a bigger scope or go from tactician to enterprise-level leader, the next six months will make or break your shot at what's next. Leverage Q3 & Q4 to rise into the role, projects, and pay that match your caliber. You'll discover how to: Get handed high-visibility opportunities (no groveling, pitching, or proving necessary) by escaping the dreaded "next level loop" Walk out of your annual review with a 140% bonus (yes really!) because you turned the busiest, most chaotic months of the year into a total perception reset Uncover exactly who decides your future, who's a hidden blocker, and who you've been wasting energy trying to impress (it's rarely what's on the org chart) Reclaim 10-20 hours per week for work that proves you're ready for bigger things -- shaping direction, building executive-level relationships, and developing a rockstar team https://melodywilding.com/training Connect with Melody: FREE NEWSLETTER: Psychology at Work Weekly Get on the Waitlist for Speak Like a Senior Leader™ Get on the Waitlist for Lead from Within Get Melody's new book, Managing Up
July 8 · 32 min
111. Escape “Hero Mode”: The Overfunctioning Leader’s Guide to Letting Go
At a certain level, being the one everyone depends on can stop feeling like proof of your value and start feeling like a ceiling. The same pattern that makes you trusted can also keep you buried in execution and trapped making decisions your team should make independently. In this episode, you’ll learn how to recognize what Melody calls “hero mode” in real time, neutralize the hidden emotional driver behind it, and take steps to scale your team while positioning yourself for greater career growth. You’ll Discover: 8 behaviors that look like "great leadership" but are torpedoing your next promotion What your boss REALLY means when she keeps saying you're "so close" to VP year after year The “seesaw” dynamic keeping your team permanently junior (and getting worse the more you help) The 3 things you HAVE to let go of before ANY delegation tactic will actually stick The specific tool I give Lead from Within clients to recalibrate productivity at senior levels https://melodywilding.com/training Connect with Melody: FREE NEWSLETTER: Psychology at Work Weekly Get on the Waitlist for Speak Like a Senior Leader™ Get on the Waitlist for Lead from Within Get Melody's new book, Managing Up
July 1 · 27 min
110. The #1 Career Insurance Policy Most High Performers Never Build
One look at the headlines and it’s clear: experienced professionals don't feel free or at ease at work right now. Middle layers are being flattened, the path upwards is narrowing, and even the most accomplished leaders are carrying worry about what's next. How do you escape it? Drawing on everything from finance theory to real stories of Lead from Within clients who've used this to land top-of-band offers, generous retention packages, and the leverage to turn down "great opportunities" without a second thought, Melody unpacks what real career freedom is and how you can engineer it for yourself. You’ll Discover: The #1 thing that lets you say "no" to a bad offer without panicking How one client turned "relocate or get fired" into a deal that worked entirely in her favor 4 aspects of executive readiness that make opportunities come to you (instead of you chasing them) https://melodywilding.com/training Connect with Melody: FREE NEWSLETTER: Psychology at Work Weekly Get on the Waitlist for Speak Like a Senior Leader™ Get on the Waitlist for Lead from Within Get Melody's new book, Managing Up
June 24 · 27 min
109. Senior Leaders: Your Next Promotion Depends on What You Do This Summer (Here’s Why)
📌 NEW CLASS 7/15 – Top of Mind & Tapped for More: Leverage Q3 & Q4 to Rise Into the Role, Projects, and Pay That Match Your Caliber: https://melodywilding.com/training Most mid-to-senior professionals treat summer as career downtime and then every fall, they're blindsided when the promotions, projects, and budgets get handed to someone else. The truth is that your next 12-18 months are being decided right NOW, while the clay is still soft and almost no one is paying attention. In this episode, Melody reveals why summer is the single highest-leverage season for your advancement, and exactly how to use it (without sacrificing a minute of your pool time). You’ll Discover: Why July is secretly the easiest month all year to get in front of power The off-script summer moments where leaders decide if you're executive material (usually when you least expect it) Why covering for a colleague on PTO is not a burden, but an audition for the next level https://melodywilding.com/training Connect with Melody: FREE NEWSLETTER: Psychology at Work Weekly Get on the Waitlist for Speak Like a Senior Leader™ Get on the Waitlist for Lead from Within Get Melody's new book, Managing Up
June 17 · 45 min
108. Endurance Beats Brilliance: What 700+ Interviews with the World's Brightest Leaders Taught Me (with Ryan Hawk)
Early in your career, the metrics are clear and your effort translates into direct results. But what happens when that stops being true? When you have to reinvent yourself constantly, and when it seems - no matter how hard you work - success is slow to come? Ryan Hawk – host of The Learning Leader Show has spent years having over 700 conversations with the world's brightest authors, scholars, and researchers. In this episode he breaks down insights from his new book The Price of Becoming. What You’ll Discover: The #1 skill that predicts long-term career success more reliably than talent, credentials, or work ethic Use the "advantage us" mindset to stop being derailed by every situation that feels unfair, unpredictable, or outside your control The flywheel that separates people who consume content from people who are changed by it About Ryan Hawk Ryan is the host of The Learning Leader Show with 680+ episodes over the past 11 years and ranked a top 5 business podcast on Apple. He is the author of The Price of Becoming, The Score That Matters, The Pursuit of Excellence, and Welcome to Management. https://learningleader.com/ https://melodywilding.com/training Connect with Melody: FREE NEWSLETTER: Psychology at Work Weekly Get on the Waitlist for Speak Like a Senior Leader™ Get on the Waitlist for Lead from Within Get Melody's new book, Managing Up
June 10 · 40 min
107. Stop Talking Yourself Out of Opportunities You've Earned: The #1 Secret from Behavior Change Expert Nir Eyal
What really drives your executive presence, career decisions, and ability to influence the people around you? No, it’s not talent, effort, or strategy. It's your beliefs. In this episode, Melody talks with Nir Eyal, a globally recognized authority on behavior change and human potential, about his new book, Beyond Belief. You’ll Discover: The critical difference between a fact, a belief, and faith Beware: positive thinking and manifestation can make you less likely to achieve your goals – here’s why Engineer your own luck and draw promotions, plum projects, and more TO you One question Nir asks himself that stops a limiting belief in its tracks About Nir Eyal Nir Eyal is a globally recognized authority on behavior change and human potential. He is the New York Times bestselling author of the international bestsellers Hooked: How to Build Habit-Forming Products and Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life, which have sold over one million copies in more than 30 languages. His third book, Beyond Belief: The Science-Backed Way to Stop Limiting Yourself and Achieve Breakthrough Results, became an instant New York Times best-seller and reveals how to identify and replace the hidden beliefs that define our limits. https://www.nirandfar.com/ https://melodywilding.com/training Connect with Melody: FREE NEWSLETTER: Psychology at Work Weekly Get on the Waitlist for Speak Like a Senior Leader™ Get on the Waitlist for Lead from Within Get Melody's new book, Managing Up
June 3 · 38 min
106. The Niceness Trap: How Being a Good Girl Is Still Capping Your Career with Dr. Lois Frankel
Twenty years after Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office changed the conversation about women in the workplace, the mistakes it exposes are still happening, but now in new settings, with higher stakes, and sometimes in subtler forms than ever before. In this episode, Melody sits down with Dr. Lois Frankel, the bestselling author behind the Nice Girls series, to talk about what has (and hasn't) changed for ambitious women navigating today's corporate landscape. You’ll Discover: The specific seating choice most women make in meetings that suggests they don't belong at the table before they've even said a word What to say when someone takes your idea and presents it as their own A two-step approach for shutting down gaslighting colleagues About Dr. Lois Frankel She is the author of the New York Times and Wall Street Journal bestselling business bible for women, Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office. Other books in the "nice girls" series include Nice Girls Don’t Get Rich, Nice Girls Just Don’t Get It and an audiobook, Nice Girls Don’t Speak Up or Stand Out. She has appeared on the Today Show and Larry King Live and has been interviewed in the Wall Street Journal, People magazine, Cosmopolitan, and other print media. Her client list includes Amgen, ARCO, BP, Goldman Sachs, Lockheed Martin, McKinsey & Co., Cedars Sinai Medical Center, and The Walt Disney Company. https://drloisfrankel.com/ https://melodywilding.com/training Connect with Melody: FREE NEWSLETTER: Psychology at Work Weekly Get on the Waitlist for Speak Like a Senior Leader™ Get on the Waitlist for Lead from Within Get Melody's new book, Managing Up
May 27 · 35 min
105. Hope is the Strategy with Deloitte’s First Chief Wellbeing Officer, Jen Fisher
What if the thing standing between you and the career and leadership impact you want isn't strategy, skill, or hustle…but hope? In this episode, Melody sits down with Jen Fisher, former Chief Wellbeing Officer at Deloitte and author of Hope is The Strategy. Jen shares the science of hope as a performance skill – one that the research shows directly predicts goal achievement, drives higher performance, builds stronger teams, and creates the kind of leadership presence that people genuinely want to follow. You’ll Discover: The sneaky ways hopelessness creeps into high-performing teams (and why most leaders miss it until it's too late) What Jen did with her team during a major corporate restructuring that kept them connected, motivated, and growing with almost no resources The one question that trains your brain to find possibility instead of defaulting to threat and catastrophe The three most powerful words you as a leader can say right now to instantly build and disarm skeptics About Jen Fisher Jen Fisher is a global authority on workplace wellbeing, the bestselling author of Work Better Together, and the founder and CEO of The Wellbeing Team. As Deloitte US's first chief wellbeing officer, she pioneered a groundbreaking, human-centered approach to work that gained international recognition and reshaped how organizations view wellbeing. https://www.jen-fisher.com/ https://melodywilding.com/training Connect with Melody: FREE NEWSLETTER: Psychology at Work Weekly Get on the Waitlist for Speak Like a Senior Leader™ Get on the Waitlist for Lead from Within Get Melody's new book, Managing Up
May 20 · 39 min
104. Fear of the Unknown: Better Career Decisions in Uncertain Times with Simone Stolzoff
How do you deal with uncertainty at a time when our careers and work have never felt less certain? Melody sits down with journalist Simone Stolzoff to talk about his brand new book How to Not Know and how to stop letting anxiety about the unknown dictate your decisions. You’ll Discover: The #1 reason your tolerance for uncertainty is getting worse (and it has nothing to do with stress or your job) How to identify which of three “certainty traps” is holding you back from career opportunities The surprising thing smart people do that makes professional uncertainty so much worse One question that cuts through analysis paralysis faster than any pro/con list ever will About Simone Simone Stolzoff is a journalist and author from San Francisco. His work has been featured in The New York Times, The Atlantic, and on the TED stage. His debut book, The Good Enough Job, was translated into over a dozen languages. https://simonestolzoff.com/ https://melodywilding.com/training Connect with Melody: FREE NEWSLETTER: Psychology at Work Weekly Get on the Waitlist for Speak Like a Senior Leader™ Get on the Waitlist for Lead from Within Get Melody's new book, Managing Up
May 14 · 18 min
103. The #1 Truth About Influence That I Learned the Hard Way
🚨 LAST CHANCE: Speak Like a Senior Leader™ gives you the system to become a crisp, clear, confident communicator and be handed dream opportunities before you ever ask for them. Secure your spot: https://speaklikeaseniorleader.com Today, Melody is sharing something personal — the number one truth about influence she had to discover herself, the hard way. And why understanding it might be the most important thing you do for your communication and your career this year. https://melodywilding.com/training Connect with Melody: FREE NEWSLETTER: Psychology at Work Weekly Get on the Waitlist for Speak Like a Senior Leader™ Get on the Waitlist for Lead from Within Get Melody's new book, Managing Up
May 12 · 33 min
102. Executive Presence in the Public Sector: How One Government Leader Got a First-of-Its-Kind Initiative Approved FAST
📢DOORS CLOSING: Speak Like a Senior Leader™ gives you the system to become a crisp, clear, confident communicator and be handed dream opportunities before you ever ask for them. Secure your spot: https://speaklikeaseniorleader.com Work outside the traditional corporate or tech world and wonder how to apply executive level communication to YOUR world? This episode is for you. Speak Like a Senior Leader™ alumni, Roxanne – a leader in the government – shares how she went from feeling a constant and confusing disconnect between the strength of her work and how it was landing to finally getting buy-in for a first-of-its-kind initiative her organization had never attempted before. What You’ll Discover "I just need to find the right words." Wrong! Here's what's really standing between you and the buy-in you need The #1 communication tweak that makes bureaucratic, risk-averse decision-makers lean in instead of stall (no, it’s not adding data) The question every senior stakeholder is silently asking while you're presenting — and how to answer it before they do https://melodywilding.com/training Connect with Melody: FREE NEWSLETTER: Psychology at Work Weekly Get on the Waitlist for Speak Like a Senior Leader™ Get on the Waitlist for Lead from Within Get Melody's new book, Managing Up
May 8 · 35 min
101. Become an Enterprise-Level Communicator: Speak Without Freezing Up (And Get Executives to Listen)
📢 DOORS OPEN: Speak Like a Senior Leader™ gives you the system to become a crisp, clear, confident communicator and be handed dream opportunities before you ever ask for them. Secure your spot: https://speaklikeaseniorleader.com Becoming an enterprise-level communicator goes far beyond commanding the room. It means translating complex work across functions, reading what different audiences actually need to hear, and driving alignment across stakeholders who all want different things — and most high performers have never been shown exactly how to do it. In this episode, Speak Like a Senior Leader™ alumni Daryl shares how he did it. What You’ll Discover: The communication habit that makes you look reactive (even when you're completely on top of your work) What executives are really asking when they say "can you bring me up to speed?" (it's almost never what you think) How Daryl went from dreading pushback to being the person who sets the tone for how the entire team navigates disagreement How to bring stakeholders up to speed on changing priorities without sounding like you're making excuses https://melodywilding.com/training Connect with Melody: FREE NEWSLETTER: Psychology at Work Weekly Get on the Waitlist for Speak Like a Senior Leader™ Get on the Waitlist for Lead from Within Get Melody's new book, Managing Up
May 6 · 1 hr 35 min
100. Effortless Executive Presence [FULL TRAINING]
👉 Doors for Speak Like a Senior Leader close May 15th, 2026. Apply by May 8th and you'll get a bonus: two personalized strategic communication reviews. The bonus expires Friday, May 8th at 11:59pm ET. In this replay of Effortless Executive Presence, I cover: Why you do NOT need to be a naturally gifted speaker to have charisma (and what actually creates it) A 3-second test that reveals whether you sound like a credible senior leader – or a lower-level executor The exact swap a Chief People Officer used to go from hearing "I'm not sure you're competent" to earning a bonus worth 1.45x her salary. Same role. Same boss. The #1 thing you're not saying in status meetings that's keeping you stuck in promotion purgatory Apply to Speak Like a Senior Leader at https://www.speaklikeaseniorleader.com/. https://melodywilding.com/training Connect with Melody: FREE NEWSLETTER: Psychology at Work Weekly Get on the Waitlist for Speak Like a Senior Leader™ Get on the Waitlist for Lead from Within Get Melody's new book, Managing Up
April 29 · 19 min
99. Why Some People Get Promoted Everywhere They Go (It's Not What You Think)
This episode is a wake-up call and it might be the most important one you hear this year. See, most people are passive passengers in their careers, waiting to be noticed, developed, and rewarded by an organization that was never designed to put them first. In this episode, Melody breaks down the #1 mindset shift separating true high performers from everyone else – one with the potential to completely change the way you think about your career, your skills, and what it actually means to own your professional future. What You’ll Discover: The "conveyor belt" career model your parents handed you (how it’s now costing you $100k+) What Gallup's latest research says about the "restless but immobile" workforce – and how to make sure that's not you The six-letter word that instantly signals a passive career mindset The #1 thing professionals who thrive in any economy, at any company, all have in common (no, it’s not talent, tenure, hustle, or their network) https://melodywilding.com/training Connect with Melody: FREE NEWSLETTER: Psychology at Work Weekly Get on the Waitlist for Speak Like a Senior Leader™ Get on the Waitlist for Lead from Within Get Melody's new book, Managing Up
April 22 · 24 min
98. STOP Getting Talked Over in Meetings. Here’s How
Getting talked over in meetings is one of the most common (and most demoralizing) experiences professionals face at work. But what if there's something in your communication style that's unintentionally inviting interruptions? In this episode, Melody unpacks the REAL reasons you keep getting cut off – and none of them have anything to do with developing a thicker skin. What You’ll Discover: How a Senior Account Director went from getting derailed every meeting to being described as "in command" The #1 thing you should ask yourself before opening your mouth (99% of people get this wrong) Specific phrases to reclaim the conversation when someone talks over you, without looking defensive https://melodywilding.com/training Connect with Melody: FREE NEWSLETTER: Psychology at Work Weekly Get on the Waitlist for Speak Like a Senior Leader™ Get on the Waitlist for Lead from Within Get Melody's new book, Managing Up
April 15 · 34 min
97. “You’re Too in the Weeds”: Fix Perception When Leadership Says You’re Too Detailed
“You’re too detailed." "You’re too in the weeds." "You need to zoom out." You've heard the feedback, but nobody’s told you what to actually DO about it. Reshmi, a program manager at a major CPG company, was hearing this constantly despite being one of the most capable people on her team. In this conversation, she shares specific changes that turned "she's too tactical" into "I love how you framed that" feedback from executives. You’ll discover: Why "delegate more" is bad advice for the "too in the weeds" problem How to stop over-preparing for every meeting and still sound intelligent and informed C-Suite goes on tangents? Here’s how to get the conversation back on track https://melodywilding.com/training Connect with Melody: FREE NEWSLETTER: Psychology at Work Weekly Get on the Waitlist for Speak Like a Senior Leader™ Get on the Waitlist for Lead from Within Get Melody's new book, Managing Up
April 8 · 39 min
96. Why Working Women Can’t Have it All: Balancing Motherhood and Success with Dr. Corrine Low
If you're a working mom who feels like you're constantly falling short both in your career and at home, this episode will change how you think about why. Dr. Corinne Low joins Melody to discuss "the squeeze" — that period when caregiving demands and professional growth peak at the exact same time — and why so many women end up making permanent sacrifices to survive what's actually a temporary season. We also get into what you can do to redefine success during this period, from renegotiating the invisible labor in your household to thinking about your time like an economist. In this episode, you'll discover: The invisible iceberg beneath every "equal" partnership that most couples never talk about Think your career is over after 40? Here’s why your chance of promotion increases with age An economist's trick for figuring out which of your daily tasks you should stop doing entirely https://melodywilding.com/training Connect with Melody: FREE NEWSLETTER: Psychology at Work Weekly Get on the Waitlist for Speak Like a Senior Leader™ Get on the Waitlist for Lead from Within Get Melody's new book, Managing Up

Psychology at Work | Career Success, Leadership, Communication Skills

115. Build a Team That Takes Ownership & Doesn’t Depend on YOU for Answers with Michael Bungay Stanier

114. How to Turn a High-Stakes Stretch Into a Promotion Accelerator

113. Are You Executive-Ready? Here's the Real Test [MINI MASTERCLASS]

112. Top of Mind & Tapped for More [FULL TRAINING]

111. Escape “Hero Mode”: The Overfunctioning Leader’s Guide to Letting Go

110. The #1 Career Insurance Policy Most High Performers Never Build

109. Senior Leaders: Your Next Promotion Depends on What You Do This Summer (Here’s Why)

108. Endurance Beats Brilliance: What 700+ Interviews with the World's Brightest Leaders Taught Me (with Ryan Hawk)

107. Stop Talking Yourself Out of Opportunities You've Earned: The #1 Secret from Behavior Change Expert Nir Eyal

106. The Niceness Trap: How Being a Good Girl Is Still Capping Your Career with Dr. Lois Frankel

105. Hope is the Strategy with Deloitte’s First Chief Wellbeing Officer, Jen Fisher

104. Fear of the Unknown: Better Career Decisions in Uncertain Times with Simone Stolzoff

103. The #1 Truth About Influence That I Learned the Hard Way

102. Executive Presence in the Public Sector: How One Government Leader Got a First-of-Its-Kind Initiative Approved FAST

101. Become an Enterprise-Level Communicator: Speak Without Freezing Up (And Get Executives to Listen)

100. Effortless Executive Presence [FULL TRAINING]

99. Why Some People Get Promoted Everywhere They Go (It's Not What You Think)

98. STOP Getting Talked Over in Meetings. Here’s How

97. “You’re Too in the Weeds”: Fix Perception When Leadership Says You’re Too Detailed

96. Why Working Women Can’t Have it All: Balancing Motherhood and Success with Dr. Corrine Low