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ProjectME with Tiffany Carter – Entrepreneurship & Millionaire Mindset · Thursday · 1 hr 9 min

How to Stay Calm During Stressful Conversations & Around Difficult People w/ Dr. Jeremy Pollack

Have you ever replayed a conversation in your head for hours... wishing you had said something differently? Or found yourself shutting down, getting defensive, people-pleasing, or saying something you instantly regretted? What if the problem isn't your communication skills? What if it's your nervous system? In this fascinating conversation, I sit down with Dr. Jeremy Pollack, psychologist, neuroscience-based conflict resolution expert, and author of Wired for Peace, to unpack why difficult conversations feel so overwhelming, how your brain responds to conflict, and the practical neuroscience-backed tools that can help you stay calm under pressure. Whether you're navigating challenging relationships, family dynamics, workplace conflict, leadership, parenting, or simply want healthier communication, this episode will completely change the way you think about stressful conversations and difficult people. You'll walk away understanding why conflict isn't simply a communication problem, how to regulate your nervous system before reacting, and how to build stronger, more trusting relationships without abandoning yourself in the process. RESOURCES MENTIONED: {End of Summer Applications are Open} Exclusive 2-Month Private Customized Business Coaching Program: APPLY HERE (both established and new entrepreneurs use the same application) *serious applicants only Inside The ProjectME Posse, we're diving into my brand-new Gift of Gab series, where I teach my proven communication and conversion strategies step by step >> JOIN HERE My Gift to You! Your Quantum Walk guided meditation series + Fire Horse Identity Journal HERE CONNECT WITH TIFF: Tiffany on Instagram @projectme_with_tiffany Tiffany on TikTok @projectme_with_tiffany Tiffany on YouTube: ProjectME TV Tiffany's FREE Email Community: JOIN HERE > The Secret Posse Digest Connect with Dr. Jeremy Pollack: Website Instagram Book: Wired for Peace: Using 7 Neuroscience-Based Principles to Resolve Conflicts In this episode, we discuss: • Why your nervous system—not your communication skills—is often the real reason conversations break down. • The surprising neuroscience behind why you shut down, become defensive, people-please, or emotionally react during conflict. • A simple brain-based technique to calm your nervous system before difficult conversations. • How to stop taking other people's reactions so personally. • Why conflict can actually become one of the greatest opportunities for deeper trust and stronger relationships. • Practical tools for navigating stressful conversations at work, at home, with family members, partners, clients, and colleagues. • The biggest mistakes people make when trying to resolve conflict—and what to do instead. • How understanding your brain can help you communicate with more confidence, clarity, and emotional resilience. If you've ever searched for how to deal with difficult people, stay calm during conflict, improve communication, regulate your nervous system, stop people-pleasing, or create healthier relationships, this conversation is packed with practical tools you'll use immediately.

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Have you ever replayed a conversation in your head for hours... wishing you had said something differently? Or found yourself shutting down, getting defensive, people-pleasing, or saying something you instantly regretted?

What if the problem isn't your communication skills?

What if it's your nervous system?

In this fascinating conversation, I sit down with Dr. Jeremy Pollack, psychologist, neuroscience-based conflict resolution expert, and author of Wired for Peace, to unpack why difficult conversations feel so overwhelming, how your brain responds to conflict, and the practical neuroscience-backed tools that can help you stay calm under pressure.

Whether you're navigating challenging relationships, family dynamics, workplace conflict, leadership, parenting, or simply want healthier communication, this episode will completely change the way you think about stressful conversations and difficult people.

You'll walk away understanding why conflict isn't simply a communication problem, how to regulate your nervous system before reacting, and how to build stronger, more trusting relationships without abandoning yourself in the process.

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

{End of Summer Applications are Open} Exclusive 2-Month Private Customized Business Coaching Program: APPLY HERE (both established and new entrepreneurs use the same application) *serious applicants only

Inside The ProjectME Posse, we're diving into my brand-new Gift of Gab series, where I teach my proven communication and conversion strategies step by step >> JOIN HERE

My Gift to You! Your Quantum Walk guided meditation series + Fire Horse Identity Journal HERE

CONNECT WITH TIFF:

Tiffany on Instagram @projectme_with_tiffany

Tiffany on TikTok @projectme_with_tiffany

Tiffany on YouTube: ProjectME TV

Tiffany's FREE Email Community: JOIN HERE > The Secret Posse Digest

Connect with Dr. Jeremy Pollack:

Website

Instagram

Book: Wired for Peace: Using 7 Neuroscience-Based Principles to Resolve Conflicts

In this episode, we discuss:

• Why your nervous system—not your communication skills—is often the real reason conversations break down.

• The surprising neuroscience behind why you shut down, become defensive, people-please, or emotionally react during conflict.

• A simple brain-based technique to calm your nervous system before difficult conversations.

• How to stop taking other people's reactions so personally.

• Why conflict can actually become one of the greatest opportunities for deeper trust and stronger relationships.

• Practical tools for navigating stressful conversations at work, at home, with family members, partners, clients, and colleagues.

• The biggest mistakes people make when trying to resolve conflict—and what to do instead.

• How understanding your brain can help you communicate with more confidence, clarity, and emotional resilience.

If you've ever searched for how to deal with difficult people, stay calm during conflict, improve communication, regulate your nervous system, stop people-pleasing, or create healthier relationships, this conversation is packed with practical tools you'll use immediately.

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