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Podcast Therapy with Dr. Z · March 5 · 51 min

My Porn Addiction Is Destroying My Marriage. Can I Change?

Trigger Warning: This episode discusses pornography addiction and sexual content. In this very honest conversation, Yaakov opens up about his chronic struggle with pornography addiction and the pain it has caused in every part of his life. Coming from a difficult childhood and becoming a baal teshuva, he shares how the lying, the shame, and the addiction led to separation from his wife and left him feeling disconnected from real Judaism. For Yaakov, watching porn often became the only way he felt soothed, even as it pulled him further from the person he wanted to be. Dr. Z helps him look beneath the surface, asking what is really driving the addiction and why he runs toward it when emotions feel too heavy. Yaakov uses intellectualization as a defense because it feels safe, but it keeps him from feeling what he needs to feel in order to heal. This conversation explores how all of us use defenses to avoid pain, and how the real work begins when we stop running and learn to sit with what is uncomfortable. To be a future guest (yes, we can distort your voice): Please visit LivingLchaim.com/podcasttherapy You can explore the world of mental health with our other show "That's An Issue": https://plinkhq.com/i/1607752110/e/?to=page Reach out to Dr. Z here: Child and Adult Psychological Services, PLLC Email: Info@caapsgroup.com Office: (718) 338-4477 Website: https://caapsgroup.com Lchaim.

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Trigger Warning: This episode discusses pornography addiction and sexual content.


In this very honest conversation, Yaakov opens up about his chronic struggle with pornography addiction and the pain it has caused in every part of his life. Coming from a difficult childhood and becoming a baal teshuva, he shares how the lying, the shame, and the addiction led to separation from his wife and left him feeling disconnected from real Judaism. For Yaakov, watching porn often became the only way he felt soothed, even as it pulled him further from the person he wanted to be.


Dr. Z helps him look beneath the surface, asking what is really driving the addiction and why he runs toward it when emotions feel too heavy. Yaakov uses intellectualization as a defense because it feels safe, but it keeps him from feeling what he needs to feel in order to heal. This conversation explores how all of us use defenses to avoid pain, and how the real work begins when we stop running and learn to sit with what is uncomfortable.


To be a future guest (yes, we can distort your voice):

Please visit LivingLchaim.com/podcasttherapy

You can explore the world of mental health with our other show "That's An Issue":

https://plinkhq.com/i/1607752110/e/?to=page

Reach out to Dr. Z here:

Child and Adult Psychological Services, PLLC

Email: Info@caapsgroup.com

Office: (718) 338-4477

Website: https://caapsgroup.com

Lchaim.