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Not So Chic with Elli Freeman · July 22 · 29 min

Respectfully... I Got the Ick

This week we're talking about one of the most unserious—and strangely revealing—parts of modern dating: the ick. From men chasing ping pong balls to wearing Band-Aids, we've all experienced those completely irrational moments where attraction disappears in an instant. But what if the ick isn't always about them? What if sometimes it's about what closeness, kindness, or emotional availability brings up in us? In this episode, I'm unpacking the difference between an ick and a red flag, why I seem to get the ick from genuinely nice guys, how chasing can feel safer than receiving love, and why we so often mistake anxiety for chemistry. We talk about attachment, self-sabotage, wanting vs. needing in relationships, and how to tell the difference between intuition, discernment, and fear. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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This week we're talking about one of the most unserious—and strangely revealing—parts of modern dating: the ick.

From men chasing ping pong balls to wearing Band-Aids, we've all experienced those completely irrational moments where attraction disappears in an instant. But what if the ick isn't always about them? What if sometimes it's about what closeness, kindness, or emotional availability brings up in us?

In this episode, I'm unpacking the difference between an ick and a red flag, why I seem to get the ick from genuinely nice guys, how chasing can feel safer than receiving love, and why we so often mistake anxiety for chemistry. We talk about attachment, self-sabotage, wanting vs. needing in relationships, and how to tell the difference between intuition, discernment, and fear.

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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