Why your team can't be your friends (and where the line actually is)

You thought she was a friend. Then the reorg came out and she found out with everyone else. What felt like a betrayal was a clarity problem. In this episode, Lia Garvin breaks down the difference between being friendly with your team and being their friend, what self-management really means before any other management tool can work, and the one thing to say upfront that changes the entire dynamic.

In this episode you will learn:

• Why the betrayal your team feels when hard news hits is almost never about what you did, and what it actually is
• The kinds of things you will always know as a leader that your team cannot know yet, and why that is the job
• Where the friendship line quietly blurs: lending money, bending policies, venting, inviting one person and not all
• What equitable management looks like and why it protects everyone, including you
• The one sentence to say when you hire someone that sets the dynamic from day one

Resources mentioned:

• Free conversation guide (5 scripts for your stickiest leadership conversations): liagarvin.com/convo
• Reach out: liagarvin.com/contact

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