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Love Strategies: Dating and Love Advice for Successful Women

Adam LoDolce and Dr. Gary Lewandowski

Welcome to the Love Strategies podcast, where we help women attract high-value men, date with strategy, and deepen their romantic relationships. We provide the latest research in dating and relationships, combined with plain old common sense, to give you insights into the male mind found nowhere else. Hosted by Adam LoDolce and Dr. Gary Lewandowski. 

  • 21 episodes
  • Updated Saturday

Episodes21

  • Saturday · 33 min

    Why the Men Who Want You Aren't the Men Who Commit

    A man's desire is not proof of his devotion. That single misread is where the confusion, the "slow fade," and the self-blame begin. Once you understand the evolutionary wiring behind male dating behavior, you stop taking his disappearing act personally and start seeing the difference between a man who wants your attention and a man who is ready for your life. NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

  • Wednesday · 9 min

    How To Tell If He'll Really Commit (Without Asking Him)

    If you keep decoding mixed signals and second-guessing your standards, this one is for you. I wrote about the quieter, behavioral signs that a man has already decided whether you're short-term or long-term, and how to actually see them. No scripts, no games, just a clearer way to read his effort, his calendar, and your own confusion. If you're ready to stop negotiating with "busy" men and start honoring what you actually want, then listen to this. NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

  • August 3 · 29 min

    6 Things Men Notice First in a Woman and Find Massively Attractive

    Are you ready to dive into the minds of men and discover what truly captures our attention? If so, check out today's podcast: 6 Things Men Notice First in a Woman and Find Massively Attractive. Originally aired: Nov. 26, 2023 NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

  • August 1 · 45 min

    She Was 46 and Ready to Give Up on Love. Then This Happened. (Delicia's Story)

    Brilliant at work, baffled by dating? For a woman who thinks for a living, "just flirt more" is not advice, it is an insult. In this episode we break down how high-achieving women turn a discouraging love life around without going casual or lowering their standards. Why pacing, structure, and one simple mindset shift matter far more than perfect photos or the right text. If part of you is ready to give up on love, and part of you refuses to, this one is for you. Delicia almost swiped past the man she's about to marry. Watch our free 7 Little Love Steps training to learn the strategy that changed how she dated: https://go.lovestrategies.com/virtual NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

  • July 27 · 36 min

    The Truth About Long Distance Relationships: What Science Says

    Thanks to the internet, long-distance relationships (LDRs) have become a popular phenomenon. From spousal separations to meeting someone special online, LDRs are now more common than ever before. But how do you make it work? In this podcast, we share personal experiences and expert advice on navigating the challenges of long-distance love. We ask the most important question: Will it work? We discuss the risks involved in investing in a long-distance relationship and the role that distance plays in creating desire. Join us as we explore different scenarios where we might recommend pursuing an LDR, and discuss strategies for making it work. We'll cover topics like quality time versus constant quantity, having a plan to live near each other within a year, and spending more than just a weekend together. Originally aired: Apr. 09, 2023 NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

  • July 25 · 21 min

    5 Things You Don't Realize You're Doing That Scare Men Away

    You've done the therapy, read the books, and know exactly what you want. So why do men still pull back just as things get serious? Often it isn't that you're not enough. It's that the intelligence and self-protection driving your career are quietly sabotaging your love life. Stop unintentionally scaring great men away and learn a proven step-by-step dating strategy: https://go.lovestrategies.com/virtual Here are the five invisible behaviors to watch for, and how to trade each one for real connection. NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

  • July 20 · 37 min

    How to Make a Man Miss You

    How do you build desire and make a man miss you? Create scarcity without playing games. In this week's podcast, we discuss (debate) the power of making a man miss you through the dating process. Originally aired: Dec. 18, 2022 NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

  • July 18 · 23 min

    The 3 Questions That Tell You If He's "The One" (Not Your Gut)

    Stop wondering if he’s "The One" based on a "vibe" and start using data to find your person. In this episode, we break down the Date Night Debrief, a simple 10-minute strategy rooted in decision-making science to help you stop obsessing and start dating with clarity. Stop overthinking every text and start using our 10-minute post-date debrief to actually see who is worth your time. Learn a Male Mind Map: https://go.lovestrategies.com/map NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

  • July 15 · 14 min

    Why Your Success Isn't Intimidating Men (And What Actually Is)

    When I started looking at why so many accomplished women stayed stuck in love, the patterns were uncomfortably familiar: comforting beliefs, overprotective friend circles, and a quiet refusal to be a beginner at anything. In this episode, I walk through the specific mindset shifts that actually move the needle, without asking you to shrink or pretend to be “less.” If you’ve ever wondered whether your success is secretly working against you in dating, you may find the real answer both confronting and relieving. And more importantly, you’ll see exactly where your power has been all along. NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

  • July 13 · 43 min

    7 Biggest Turnoffs for Men

    In this episode of the podcast, hosts Adam LoDolce and Dr. Gary Lewandowski dive deep into the 7 biggest turnoffs for men. The problem they address is that many women believe that turnoffs have to do with physical attributes, but the reality is that when a man is in the market for a serious relationship and looking for a high-value partner, turnoffs become emotional. Through their own personal experiences and expert insights, Adam and Gary explore the turnoffs that both men and women can relate to. They start with the idea of trying to control the uncontrollable and how it can be a major turnoff for men when women talk about the future or lean into their masculine side. They also touch on the idea of unearned affection and how it can be off-putting when a woman gives too much before a man has done anything to earn it. Other turnoffs that they discuss include a lack of interest, perceived promiscuity, the double O effect (obvious and ordinary), a negative attitude toward love, and being a doormat without clear boundaries. They also explore the idea of playing games in dating, and how it can come off as immature rather than strategic. Throughout the episode, Adam and Gary offer their expert advice on how to avoid these turnoffs and how to cultivate healthy, thriving relationships. So, if you're curious about what makes men tick and how to create a lasting connection, this episode is a must-listen. Originally aired: May. 07, 2023 NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

  • July 11 · 21 min

    The Science Behind The Perfect Post-Date Text

    Stop agonizing over when you should text, and start using data. We’re breaking down a brand-new study that debunks the "Three-Day Rule" that's actually destroying your dating life. Learn the exact "Sweet Spot" timing that increases chemistry and makes a second date almost inevitable. Skip the confusing “three day rule” and use research-backed texting that actually builds chemistry after a great first date: https://go.lovestrategies.com/begin NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

  • July 8 · 14 min

    The Limiting Beliefs Keeping Successful Women Single After 40

    Most successful women don't struggle in dating because they lack options. They struggle because the same drive that built their career quietly works against them in love. I've coached thousands of women through this. The patterns are consistent, and so are the exits. So if you've ever felt stuck without knowing exactly why, this one's for you. Stop letting limiting beliefs and “I’m not ready yet” thinking quietly stall your love life and watch our free 7 Little Love Steps training to reset your dating mindset and start creating the relationship you actually want: https://go.lovestrategies.com/virtual NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

  • July 6 · 41 min

    7 Ways to Know if a Guy REALLY Likes You (or is just breadcrumbing)

    A peculiar trend has emerged in the ever-evolving landscape of modern dating, leaving many to wonder, "What in the world are guys doing?" The scenario is all too familiar: you're texting a guy, the conversation is flirty, sparks are seemingly flying, and then suddenly, it all fizzles out to nothing. You might even suggest going out sometime; he agrees enthusiastically, and then... radio silence. Here’s how to know if he likes you, or if he’s just breadcrumbing. Originally aired: Mar. 03, 2024 NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

  • July 4 · 30 min

    Does He Like You? 5 Things Men INSTANTLY Notice

    Think he’s just checking out your eyes? Think again. Men are subconsciously "thin-slicing" your behavior from the very first minute to decide if you're a partner or a "project." We’re diving into the 5 specific things high-character men prioritize and why being "impossible to please" is the quickest way to lose a great guy. Want to stop wondering if he’s genuinely into you or just being polite and start sending clear green-light signals that high character men actually respond to? https://go.lovestrategies.com/cap NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

  • June 29 · 42 min

    What Men Find Attractive in a Woman

    So what do men REALLY find attractive in a woman? Is it her physical appearance, or are there other more important attributes that matter? In this week's podcast, Gary and Adam discuss what men find attractive in a woman, and it has very little to do with age, hair, or makeup. Originally aired: Jan. 17, 2023 NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

  • June 27 · 28 min

    Attracting the Wrong Men? 5 Ways to Trust Your Dating Instincts

    If your past dating choices have left you questioning your own judgment, it’s time to stop "following your heart" and start recalibrating your discernment. This episode breaks down why your gut feelings might be failing you and provides a high-level framework for rebuilding self-trust and spotting red flags before they become regrets. Start rebuilding your dating instincts so you stop second-guessing yourself and stop attracting the wrong men: https://go.lovestrategies.com/map NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

  • June 22 · 6 min

    If A Man Ignores You, Here’s What He’s Thinking

    Whether you’re dealing with a one-time ghoster or a guy who’s suddenly MIA mid-connection, here’s what his behavior is actually telling you—and how to respond without losing your sanity (or your standards). Originally aired: Jun. 25, 2025 NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

  • June 20 · 42 min

    The Feminine Energy Secret That Will Make You Stop Choosing Toxic Men

    In this special episode, join Executive Love Coach Robin as she reveals how to master feminine confidence without losing your professional edge. Learn why "feminine energy" isn’t about being less powerful, but about installing the right "software" to transition from the boardroom to a romantic connection. Robin shares practical scripts and shifts in appreciation that will transform how you show up on your next date. You'll learn Why feminine energy is a tool, not a makeover. How to transition use more feminine energy without feeling inauthentic. Real-world scripts: What to say instead of "Why are you still on the apps?" or "Just come to my house. Want practical, real-world examples of how to stop over-functioning in your masculine and start dating from your true feminine energy instead go to https://go.lovestrategies.com/begin NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

  • June 15 · 32 min

    Why Confidence (Not Perfection) Makes You Irresistible to Men

    Are you tired of attracting the same type of partner? In this episode, we're moving beyond identifying the wounds that attract unhealthy partners and shifting the focus to what truly matters: your worth. Tune in for five powerful strategies to help you break old patterns and attract a fulfilling partnership built on a foundation of self-love and confidence. Originally aired: Oct. 11, 2025 NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

  • June 13 · 33 min

    Why Smart Women Keep Getting Ghosted After Great Dates

    We’ve all seen the script play out: The texting is solid. The effort is visible. You feel a genuine connection sparking. And then, silence. Ghosting become the "new normal" of the digital dating era. But as we tell our clients, while ghosting is common, it is never random. Here is the psychological reality behind why men vanish. Stop making his silence mean something about you and start using ghosting as a filter, not a verdict on your worth: https://go.lovestrategies.com/begin NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session