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Stowe Family Law

Life, love and the law is the podcast brought to you by Stowe Family Law. After almost 70 episodes of Stowe talks, our podcast helping you through relationship breakdown, Life, love and the law is a new direction.

This podcast series will bring you heartfelt and insightful conversations with experts in and around the family law field, including divorce coaches, domestic abuse consultants, financial advisers, mortgage brokers and much more. 

Our host, Liza Gatrell, family lawyer at Stowe Family Law will welcome guests to open up the conversation around all things relationship breakdown. She'll be inviting our guests to share real stories that will help you feel less alone as you navigate some of life's toughest times.

Getting the right advice is essential to minimising the stress and strain of divorce and family breakdown, so we'll still give the same great legal guidance and practical information on family processes that you expect from us. 

Life, love and the law, the podcast will help you move through each stage of your journey knowing you've got someone in your corner, whatever your circumstances.

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  • July 22 · 41 min

    How does neurodiversity affect relationships and breakups?

    🎙️How does neurodiversity affect relationships and breakups?🎙️ Neurodiversity, as Dr Angharad Rudkin, experienced Clinical Psychologist, explains, refers to the natural variation in how brains work and process information. This can mean that, in some relationships, neurodivergent individuals face different challenges than those experienced by neurotypical people. These unique challenges can manifest in stressful situations, such as adding children to a family, or divorce or separation. In this episode, Liza Gatrell speaks to Dr Angharad about how neurodiversity can impact relationships and relationship breakdowns, both from the perspective of neurodivergent adults and neurodivergent children. They explore the impact, as well as offering insight into how to work with neurodiversity, not against it. 00:26 Welcome and introductions 1:45 What is neurodiversity? 2:33 Is neurodiversity becoming a buzzword or is there better awareness? 5:09 The different ways neurodiversity can manifest 6:21 How do different neurodiversities impact relationships and parenting? 10:39 Relationship breakdowns between neurotypical and neurodiverse partners 13:14 Understanding how neurotypical can support a neurodivergent partner 14:36 Additional challenges faced in separations involving neurodiversities 17:28 Strategies to help manage the stress of separation 18:51 Telling your lawyer about your neurodiversity 21:25 Supporting neurodiverse children through separation 27:11 How to tell children you’re separating 31:26 Where to get extra support as a neurodivergent individual through separation 32:47 Talking to your lawyer about what help you need 39:45 It’s ok to be different Useful links Coping with divorce as a neurodivergent individual https://youtu.be/EQUikkUVaLA?si=8WHMNsKSvpS1NkBI Parenting after divorce or separation https://youtu.be/vlvi_O08INY?si=Gdk5H9-I6OL3b3MS Supporting neurodiverse children through divorce https://youtu.be/Wyuv-sFlRT4?si=wPSNYS-q557Bei5J Guide to creating a parenting plan https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/premium-content/?type=guide&item=creating-a-parenting-plan Parenting plan template https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/SFL_Premium-handbook-Parenting-plan-template.pdf How to have difficult conversations and avoid arguments https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/how-to-have-a-difficult-conversation-and-avoid-arguments/ If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our email list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one place https://mailchi.mp/69a5d247d3ba/stowetalks 🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe Support https://bit.ly/41heUWN 🎧 Listen to our podcast on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/3L6VFcE 🎬 Watch on YouTube - https://bit.ly/3Mwa4wG Follow us on socials TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@lifelovelawpodcast?lang=en Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one 🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe support. Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1 This podcast is brought to you by the Stowe talks team at Stowe Family Law - https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/

  • July 8 · 11 min

    Does adultery affect divorce?

    🎙️Does adultery affect divorce in the UK?🎙️ Adultery doesn’t always cause the breakdown of a relationship, there are ways to repair after infidelity. But when a couple decides that their marriage or partnership has come to an end after an affair, the main question people ask is ‘does adultery affect divorce’. The reality is that legally speaking, no it doesn’t. In this episode, host Liza Gatrell is joined by her colleague Emily Beven, a UK divorce lawyer based in Reading to discuss adultery and divorce. In what circumstances might an affair impact a divorce settlement or child arrangements? Find out in the episode. 00:17 Introductions 00:38 How does no-fault divorce impact divorce proceedings? 02:00 Are there any circumstances when adultery might be taken into account in divorce 03:35 Cases where ‘conduct’ has impacted financial settlements 04:54 Reframing how to deal with resentment against an ex-partner 06:47 What happens if the adulterer has a new partner? 09:57 Top tips for divorcing after an affair Useful links Adultery and divorce https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/family-law/divorce/adultery-and-divorce/ Top myths about divorce and affairs https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/adultery-and-divorce-the-top-ten-myths/ What should I do if my spouse is having an affair? https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/what-should-i-do-if-my-husband-wife-is-having-an-affair-2/ Keeping children in the centre - not the middle - of divorce and separation https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/keeping-children-at-the-centre-not-the-middle-of-separation-and-divorce/ Navigating the conversation: telling your children about your new partner https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/navigating-the-conversation-telling-your-children-about-your-new-partner-after-divorce/ Life after an affair: divorce and blended families https://open.spotify.com/episode/37l9HFDZj0BmxH37QEJWd3?si=a5650db3aba645d1 If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our email list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one place https://mailchi.mp/69a5d247d3ba/stowetalks 🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe Support https://bit.ly/41heUWN 🎧 Listen to our podcast on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/3L6VFcE 🎬 Watch on YouTube - https://bit.ly/3Mwa4wG Follow us on socials TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@lifelovelawpodcast?lang=en Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one 🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe support. Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1 This podcast is brought to you by the Stowe talks team at Stowe Family Law - https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/

  • June 24 · 35 min

    Life after an affair: Divorce and blended families

    🎙️Life after an affair: divorce and blended families🎙️ Life, love and the law, a podcast by Stowe Family Law This episode of Life, love and the law welcomes our first ever couple to the podcast. Tom Nash, a regular face with us, brings along his partner Donna to discuss their lived experiences of affairs, divorce and building a blended family. Tom takes off his ‘divorce coach’ hat, to get into the nitty gritty of how the affair came about, the fallout and the next 9 years of hard work and pain to get to where they are now - a successful, happy blended family with his ex-wife and Donna’s ex-husband! 00:53 Introductions 02:28 Tom introduces the topic of his affair and Donna goes on to discuss her separation and parenting 04:38 How Tom and Donna met and the end of Tom’s marriage 06:38 How could conversations have happened in those early days to be more respectful? 09:00 Coping with the aftermath of telling your spouse you want to divorce 11:08 Donna discusses the breakdown of her marriage and her experience of divorced parents 14:45 Lack of understanding around the divorce process itself 15:25 The legal implications of an affair on divorce proceedings 18:28 How does a divorce coach work with people on the edge of a breakup 20:20 Can you recover from an affair? 23:00 The role of a stepparent in a blended family 24:14 Should you stay together for the kids? 26:00 How did Tom and Donna get from the affair to a successful blended family? 33:45 Biggest reflections on the impact of an affair and how to move forward Useful links Adultery and divorce https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/family-law/divorce/adultery-and-divorce/ Top myths about divorce and affairs https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/adultery-and-divorce-the-top-ten-myths/ What should I do if my spouse is having an affair? https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/what-should-i-do-if-my-husband-wife-is-having-an-affair-2/ Avoiding the top divorce mistakes https://open.spotify.com/episode/0miHzVWzorsoj2QH5XOgi6?si=138279a774194e5b How to introduce a new partner to the kids https://open.spotify.com/episode/3j7T2cGqTrFqb0rV9xat8u?si=3aaf756e1a9647c7 Parenting plan template https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/SFL_Premium-handbook-Parenting-plan-template.pdf If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one 🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe support. Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1 This podcast is brought to you by the Stowe talks team at Stowe Family Law - https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/

  • June 10 · 27 min

    Understanding a sexless marriage

    🎙️Understanding a sexless marriage🎙️ Life, love and the law, a podcast by Stowe Family Law A sexless marriage is one in which the couple has sex less than 10 times a year, as expert sex therapist Natasha Silverman explains. But the important thing is not necessarily the frequency, but the emotional connection between two partners, and what happens when that disappears. In this episode of Life, love and the law, host and family lawyer Liza Gatrell is joined by relationship and psychosexual therapist Natasha Silverman to discuss sexless marriages, understanding how they come about and what you can do as a couple if you are struggling with intimacy. They also explore how to know if your marriage or relationship has come to an end. 00:35 Introductions with Liza and Natasha 02:10 What is a sexless marriage or relationship 02:50 Key trends among sexless partners 03:52 How do you handle periods of sexlessness in relationship 05:35 How does sexual desire work in men vs women? 06:50 The normalisation of duty and expectation around sex 08:30 How to recover from a sexless relationship as a couple and as individuals 11:42 What are the common traits of an unhealthy sexual relationship? 13:34 Why do people go through sexlessness in relationships? 15:17 The honeymoon period and what happens after 17:55 Does a sexless relationship lead to cheating? 19:02 How to broach the topic of sex therapy with a partner 20:53 When do you know it’s time to break up? 22:52 Do you need to share why your marriage has ended with a lawyer? 23:50 Moving forward after a sexless relationship 25:55 Top tips if you’re in a sexless relationship Useful Links Signs your partner doesn’t love you anymore https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/signs-your-partner-doesnt-love-you-anymore/ Is it normal to have doubts in a relationship? https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/is-it-normal-to-have-doubts-in-a-relationship/ How can you tell if your marriage is over? https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/how-can-you-tell-if-your-marriage-is-over/ Is it normal to feel unsure even if your relationship looks good on paper? https://open.spotify.com/episode/6hbSuuBZcEPKghfwrmjMzs?si=f182d7fe46c04703 If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our email list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one place https://mailchi.mp/69a5d247d3ba/stowetalks 🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe Support https://bit.ly/41heUWN 🎧 Listen to our podcast on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/3L6VFcE 🎬 Watch on YouTube - https://bit.ly/3Mwa4wG Follow us on socials TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@lifelovelawpodcast?lang=en Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one 🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe support. Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1 This podcast is brought to you by the Stowe talks team at Stowe Family Law - https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/

  • May 27 · 31 min

    The importance of health and fitness during divorce and separation

    🎙️The importance of health and fitness during divorce and separation🎙️ Life, love and the law, a podcast by Stowe Family Law When you’re going through a stressful life event, keeping up with your workout schedule, eating well, or even just getting outside for a walk can feel overwhelming. But it’s so important for your mental and physical wellbeing to include activity, movement and good nutrition in your day-to-day. In this episode of Life, love and the law, Alana Ellis, personal trainer and nutritional coach, explains the value of exercise even when you really don’t feel like it. She talks about lowering the bar, not expecting too much of yourself, and taking small steps. 00:25 Introductions 01:55 The impact of stress on the body 03:21 Fight or flight vs rest and digest physical and emotional states 04:57 How important is sleep and how can you improve your sleep 08:22 Supplementing with magnesium and how it can help support good sleep 09:57 How can meditation support the nervous system? 11:53 What are the main obstacles for people when it comes to healthy food routines? 13:14 The impact of stress on relationships with food 14:36 What can replace food as an emotional coping mechanism? 15:28 Easy wins when it comes to health and fitness 16:50 The value of exercise in building up your energy bucket, not depleting it 18:20 Debunking the all or nothing mindset when it comes to exercise 23:45 Finding the motivation to exercise especially when you’re stressed 25:15 Lowering the barrier to entry with exercise 27:17 Divorce and separation to do list vs exercise and wellbeing 30:13 Top tip for health and fitness during divorce and separation Useful links Why emotional wellbeing matters during divorce https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/why-emotional-well-being-matters-during-divorce-and-how-it-affects-legal-outcomes/ Looking after your mental health through divorce https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/looking-after-your-mental-health-during-divorce/ The first steps to divorce https://youtu.be/p6ZWYK7zXN0?si=eh0aaj6K_r2nykE5 Avoiding the top divorce mistakes https://open.spotify.com/episode/0miHzVWzorsoj2QH5XOgi6 If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our email list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one place https://mailchi.mp/69a5d247d3ba/stowetalks 🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe Support https://bit.ly/41heUWN 🎧 Listen to our podcast on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/3L6VFcE 🎬 Watch on YouTube - https://bit.ly/3Mwa4wG Follow us on socials TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@lifelovelawpodcast?lang=en Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/ If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one 🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe support. Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1 This podcast is brought to you by the Stowe talks team at Stowe Family Law - https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/

  • May 13 · 38 min

    Is it normal to feel unsure even if your relationship looks good on paper?

    🎙️Is it normal to feel unsure, even if the relationship looks good on paper? Navigating relationship uncertainty🎙️ We've all heard the phrase 'looks good on paper' - the relationship has everything you ever wanted, you've got the house, the kids, the date nights. But something doesn't feel right and you can't understand why. Is it normal to feel that uncertainty? Can you come back from it? And what happens if actually it's not that you can't fix things, it's more that you don't want to? In this episode, host and family lawyer Liza Gatrell welcomes Kate Nestor, a divorce coach with a combined role as Content Lead at Stowe, to discuss all things insecurity in relationships and understanding our emotions. 00:50 Introductions 02:24 What is a divorce coach? 03:25 Feeling unsure or unhappy in your relationship and taking initial advice 04:30 Expectations in relationships - the impact of modern life 08:35 Feeling uncomfortable in your relationship and the build of disconnection 09:55 How does uncertainty manifest mentally and physically 11:10 Facing your emotions head on 16:25 Are doubts and overthinking always a linear process ending in separation? 18:55 Pressure of expectations from others about your relationship 21:15 Our own expectations of how our partners should behave - the mental load 27:39 The importance of safe place to work through and listen to your emotions: emotional awareness 29:27 How a divorce coach or therapist can support through emotions and practicalities 32:10 Taking the first steps and building resilience 35:20 The tipping point from uncertainty into a decision 37:18 Top tip for the understanding a period of uncertainty Useful links How can you tell if your marriage is over? https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/how-can-you-tell-if-your-marriage-is-over/ Reality TV to real life: why compatibility matters more than a 'spark' https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/reality-tv-to-real-life-why-compatibility-matters-more-than-the-spark/ When growing apart doesn't have to mean the end of your relationship https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/when-growing-apart-doesnt-have-to-be-the-end-of-your-relationship/ If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our email list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one place https://mailchi.mp/69a5d247d3ba/stowetalks 🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe Support https://bit.ly/41heUWN 🎧 Listen to our podcast on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/3L6VFcE 🎬 Watch on YouTube - https://bit.ly/3Mwa4wG Follow us on socials TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@lifelovelawpodcast?lang=en Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/ If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one 🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe support. Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1 This podcast is brought to you by the Stowe talks team at Stowe Family Law - https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/

  • January 2 · 47 min

    The first steps to divorce

    Starting out on your divorce journey can be really overwhelming. It’s hard to know how or where to begin with the practical and legal aspects, let alone trying to navigate this through the huge range of emotions you’re feeling. In this episode of Life, love and the law, a divorce day special, host and expert family lawyer Liza Gatrell is once again joined by firm favourites Tom Nash, aka Mr Divorce Coach, and Jodie Phelps, leading financial planner. They provide professional insight into taking the first few steps, answering the FAQs they get from clients on an almost daily basis. 00:25 Introductions from Jodie Phelps, financial adviser and Tom Nash, Mr Divorce Coach 01:18 How do you know when it’s time for a divorce? 03:01 I want to give my marriage another shot - what happens now? 05:00 Financial concerns at the beginning of divorce - am I going to be ok? 06:17 Understanding the basics of the matrimonial pot 09:27 The importance of the family home 15:19 Temporary finances and budgeting - understanding current habits and future prospects 20:19 Legal avenues if your ex won’t provide financial support during proceedings 21:23 Getting your team around you 22:46 What could you be doing if you feel that your relationship is on the rocks? 24:35 Is it always 50/50 in a divorce? 26:52 How can friends and family support you during divorce 29:35 What is a no-split divorce? Does living together apart work? 33:22 Approaching divorce in bitesized chunks and the circle of control 35:48 Expert insight into the very start of divorce process - messaging your ex, processing and ignoring hearsay 41:41 The role of the social media and TV in influencing our thoughts around divorce 44:36 AI and divorce vs speaking to a real person 45:25 The most common mistakes in divorce and how to overcome them Useful resources for getting started in your divorce journey... Download our in-depth handbook A Beginner’s Guide to Divorce 7 steps to an amicable divorce Using AI in your legal case What do I need to know when I start divorce proceedings? A beginner’s guide to divorce webinar Avoiding the top divorce mistakes Find your local Stowe family lawyer If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our email list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one place https://mailchi.mp/69a5d247d3ba/stowetalks 🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe Support https://bit.ly/41heUWN 🎧 Listen to our podcast on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/3L6VFcE 🎬 Watch on YouTube - https://bit.ly/3Mwa4wG Follow us on socials Instagram If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one 🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe support. Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1 This podcast is brought to you by the Stowe talks team at Stowe Family Law - https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/

  • Dec 12, 2025 · 34 min

    Surviving divorce and separation at Christmas

    Christmas is one of the most important times of the year for many families. When you're dealing with divorce and separation, though, the pressure can easily mount up and there can be a tidal wave of emotion. Dealing with child arrangements over Christmas, making a new financial situation work around a festive budget and navigating loneliness are just some of the things divorcing or separating people take on. In this Christmas Special of Life, love and the Law, host and family lawyer Liza Gatrell welcomes back familiar faces from Stowe talks, Jodie Phelps, financial adviser, and Tom Nash, divorce coach to the podcast. Together, they discuss planning Christmas well before December, working through the tough times and the importance of presence over presents. 00:03 Family lawyer Liza Gatrell introduces Stowe Family Law’s new podcast Life, love and the law 00:40 Jodie Phelps and Tom Phelps introduce themselves 01:35 Why is Christmas such an important topic for divorcing couples? 04:43 Blended families at Christmas - experiencing contention and working through it 07:21 Financial challenges coming up to Christmas 08:30 Are gifts truly the most important thing for children? 09:03 Getting the children’s input on what’s important to them at Christmas 10:00 How do child arrangements work after divorce or separation? 11:10 Putting children in the centre not the middle of divorce and separation 13:23 Making new traditions around special occasions and reframing 17:57 Having the conversations about Christmas earlier in the year 19:40 Is it fair that the primary caregiver should have to split Christmas equally? 21:00 Making room for compromise 23.17 Understanding and navigating loneliness at Christmas 27:10 The social media highlight reel 28:45 Practical tips for budgeting at Christmas 31:02 Should you buy a gift for your ex partner? 33:03 Top tips for approaching your first Christmas after separation Useful resources to further support you through divorce and separation at Christmas Co-parenting at Christmas: tips for a peaceful holiday season https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/co-parenting-at-christmas-tips-for-a-peaceful-holiday-season/ Download Stowe’s parenting plan template https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/premium-content/?type=guide&item=creating-a-parenting-plan Going on holiday at Christmas after divorce or separation https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/going-on-holiday-at-christmas-after-divorce-or-separation/ How to embrace being single at Christmas https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/surviving-christmas-solo/?swpmtx=0e3c8d40138a1fd65651c4db809f0a67&swpmtxnonce=a124aac3ec Tips for navigating Christmas alone from a divorce coach https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/tips-for-navigating-christmas-alone-from-a-divorce-coach/ How to manage the cost of Christmas crisis https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/how-to-manage-the-cost-of-christmas-crisis/ If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one 🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe support. Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1 This podcast is brought to you by the Stowe talks team at Stowe Family Law - https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/

  • Oct 8, 2025 · 54 min

    Episode 68: Ask a family lawyer (2) - Live

    You loved our first live episode, and there were so many questions that needed answering, we’ve done another one! In this live show, Liza is joined by Managing Partner Sebastian Burrows to answer all the family law questions you put to them. From finances, to the family home, to communicating with your ex, Liza and Seb provided guidance and information, using their extensive expertise. 01:10 How much does a divorce cost? 02:41 Starting out on the divorce process 03:40 What is mediation and why is it helpful? 06:45 What to do if you’re struggling to agree on what happens to the house 07:48 Ringfencing pre-marital assets and matrimonial vs non-matrimonial assets 12:05 Law around changing the locks on the family home 15:25 Adaptations to the property for disabilities 17:17 The importance of disclosing inheritance in financial proceedings 20:53 Managing an ex who you believe is hiding assets 23:45 The concept of percentages in dividing finances 27:28 How are children 16+ treated in the law? 30:25 How is debt treated in divorce? 33:05 Is there an end to spousal maintenance? 3715: Keeping your financial disclosure up-to-date 40:50 Spending inheritance during divorce proceedings 42:36 An explanation of Mesher Orders 47:00 Managing an uncooperative ex-partner 49:54 Housing needs for older children with ongoing medical needs 50:58 Paying your mortgage during divorce 51:31 Cohabitation disputes and financial disclosure View our upcoming events https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-talks/ Ask a family lawyer - Live https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MBr19NPLgRs Cohabitation and separating as an unmarried couple https://youtu.be/L3HCXKdQz1g?si=21ODuz1ip6ea6EhQ What ‘needs’ and ‘sharing’ really mean https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/divorce-finances-explained-what-do-needs-and-sharing-really-mean/ Clean break v maintenance - what’s right for me https://youtu.be/0sIi22ST4uI Avoiding the top divorce mistakes https://open.spotify.com/episode/0miHzVWzorsoj2QH5XOgi6 How to manage financial hearings in the Family Court https://youtu.be/pAhP_73DETY?si=7F8M3-uIXMne9Sri If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our email list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one place https://mailchi.mp/69a5d247d3ba/stowetalks 🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe Support https://bit.ly/41heUWN 🎧 Listen to our podcast on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/3L6VFcE 🎬 Watch on YouTube - https://bit.ly/3Mwa4wG Follow us on socials Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw LinkedIn - If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one 🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe support. Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1 This podcast is brought to you by the Stowe talks team at Stowe Family Law - https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/

  • Aug 28, 2025 · 23 min

    Episode 67: Should there be protection for unmarried couples living together?

    Matt and Liza discuss the problems around the lack of protection for unmarried couples living together. Cohabitation is the fastest growing family type and with this social change, there have been calls from family lawyers to review the law and help protect the financially vulnerable. But is this just inventing new laws for the sake of it? Can current marriage and divorce laws be adapted to better reflect society? 00:51 What are the problems with current cohabitation laws? 01:56 How property ownership works 04:47 Do unmarried couples have claims other than to property? 05:30 Why there are calls for cohabitation reform 07:39 Options for cohabitation reform 09:38 The importance of education around relationships and marriage 13:49 Role of prenuptial agreements 14:15 Social changes and the impact on marriage laws 16:25 How to educate people 17:50 Do the current laws reflect society? 18:45 The role of civil partnerships 19:25 Cohabitation laws providing a middle ground 20:29 Are cohabitation laws just renaming marriage? 21:32 Reforming marriage laws 22:10 The importance of protection for cohabitees Living together before marriage: the legal reality https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/living-together-before-marriage-the-legal-reality/ Legal Q&A: “My partner and I are buying a house together. How can I protect myself?” https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/legal-qa-my-partner-and-i-are-buying-a-house-together-how-can-i-protect-myself/ Buying a house as an unmarried couple https://open.spotify.com/episode/6hAGmZJSUsKh8fxEa508xV?si=54025b36c4bd4859 TOLATA claims https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/family-law/cohabitation-lawyers/tolata-claims/ What rights do cohabiting couples have? https://open.spotify.com/episode/1rzM1yDZkKeG9mfS6GZ02j?si=1cf8b74a2c5441ca If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our email list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one place https://mailchi.mp/69a5d247d3ba/stowetalks 🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe Support https://bit.ly/41heUWN 🎧 Listen to our podcast on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/3L6VFcE 🎬 Watch on YouTube - https://bit.ly/3Mwa4wG Follow us on socials Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1 If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one 🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe support. Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1 This podcast is brought to you by the Stowe talks team at Stowe Family Law - https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/

  • Aug 22, 2025 · 17 min

    Episode 66: Will living with a new partner affect my divorce?

    Moving on after a break-up is rarely easy, but many individuals do go on to have new relationships after divorce or separation. But what happens if you want to move in with a new partner? Buying somewhere together, or either of you moving into an existing property can have knock-on effects. Matt and Liza discuss how having a new partner can impact your divorce, including your finances, child arrangements and ongoing communication with your ex. 00:54 How does moving in with a new partner impact a financial settlement? 02:10 When the court will take a new partner into consideration 02:57 Exceptions to the rule 03:23 New partners and ongoing maintenance claims with your ex-spouse 05:09 Does a new partner have to provide financial disclosure? 07:00 Housing needs and mortgage capacity post-divorce 08:03 Supporting a new partner’s children 10:19 Impact on child arrangements of moving in with a new partner 12:10 What to do if you have safety concerns 13:23 Your ongoing relationship with your ex spouse 14:27 Communicating with your ex If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our email list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one place https://mailchi.mp/69a5d247d3ba/stowetalks 🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe Support https://bit.ly/41heUWN 🎧 Listen to our podcast on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/3L6VFcE 🎬 Watch on YouTube - https://bit.ly/3Mwa4wG Follow us on socials Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1 If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one 🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe support. Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1 This podcast is brought to you by the Stowe talks team at Stowe Family Law - https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/

  • Aug 20, 2025 · 30 min

    Episode 65: Navigating divorce after coming out

    In this episode of Stowe talks, Matt and Liza welcome back Tom Nash aka Mr Divorce Coach for a fascinating chat about how to manage a heterosexual divorce when one partner has come out. Tom explores having the conversation, letting people in, what to do about children and potential responses from the other spouse. 02:15 Common reasons people come out later in life 06:06 The impact of suppressing who you are 09:52 Reactions and emotions experienced by the other spouse 12:07 What preparation can you do before having the conversation 15:31 Coming out to your ex if you’ve already separated 18:30 How to talk to children about sexuality and divorce 21:39 What happens if your ex doesn’t want you to tell the children 27:55 Things to avoid in this process 29:29 Top tips from Tom Avoiding the top divorce mistakes https://open.spotify.com/episode/0miHzVWzorsoj2QH5XOgi6 Handling the judgment of others during your divorce https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/handling-the-judgement-of-others-during-your-divorce/ Challenges of relationship break down in the LGBTQIA+ community https://open.spotify.com/episode/3busTeSBgvOIhgGKmmDw8f?si=4WFrBCE4QYmZddx6vTumdA If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our email list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one place https://mailchi.mp/69a5d247d3ba/stowetalks 🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe Support https://bit.ly/41heUWN 🎧 Listen to our podcast on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/3L6VFcE 🎬 Watch on YouTube - https://bit.ly/3Mwa4wG Follow us on socials Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1 If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one 🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe support. Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1 This podcast is brought to you by the Stowe talks team at Stowe Family Law - https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/

  • Aug 16, 2025 · 15 min

    Episode 64: Do I need a lawyer to do my financial disclosure?

    Getting a financial settlement in divorce is a hugely important step, ensuring that you break all financial claims to your ex. The first part of this process is ‘full and frank’ financial disclosure, i.e., sharing the details of all your money, property, assets and debts. In this episode, Matt and Liza discuss the importance of legal advice in this process and potential risks of a DIY divorce. 00:34 What is financial disclosure and why is it important? 02:40 Practicalities of financial disclosure 03:28 What is the Form E? 06:00 The wider impact of not giving full disclosure 07:05 The importance of a lawyer in supporting your financial disclosure 08:17 Using the Form E to explain your needs post-divorce 09:52 What does ‘conduct’ mean in financial disclosure and settlements? 10:54 Income and housing needs in divorce proceedings 12:39 What happens if your financial situation changes throughout the disclosure period? 13:48 The Form D81 15:03 The court drawing inferences from lack of disclosure 15:28 Summary How to complete your Form E - handbook https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/premium-content/?type=guide&item=how-to-complete-your-form-e Reviewing your financial disclosure https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/premium-content/?type=guide&item=how-to-complete-your-form-e Managing your money during divorce https://open.spotify.com/episode/2lwI17QmgQLvTZtNN3XPmp?si=2b455019fb2e4d77 Ask a Family Lawyer https://open.spotify.com/episode/4Ql7uKEFMNpE8upJTWCrop?si=43e1aef212384728 How to complete Form D81 https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Stowe-Talks_How-to-Complete-form-D81-GUIDE.pdf If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our email list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one place https://mailchi.mp/69a5d247d3ba/stowetalks 🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe Support https://bit.ly/41heUWN 🎧 Listen to our podcast on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/3L6VFcE 🎬 Watch on YouTube - https://bit.ly/3Mwa4wG Follow us on socials Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1 If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one 🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe support. Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1 This podcast is brought to you by the Stowe talks team at Stowe Family Law - https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/

  • Aug 15, 2025 · 36 min

    Episode 63: Children in the Family Court

    One of the main things parents going through divorce are concerned about is the impact on their children, what their family situation will be going forward, and how best to shield their children. In many cases, parents can agree on matters between themselves. However, sometimes it’s necessary for the court to get involved. In this episode, award-winning barrister from 4PB, Mani Singh Basi joins Matt and Liza for a discussion on the finer details of children proceedings in the family court. 02:09 What is the function of the Family Court when it comes to children? 05:08 The difference between a Judge and a Magistrate in court and their purposes 09:15 Public children law and private children law explanation 12:06 What is involved in the first hearing in children disputes 17:40 The dispute resolution appointment where there are disputes 18:00 The final hearing and when it might be necessary 19:45 The importance of the welfare of the child 20:18 The Pathfinder pilot and improvements to the system 20:29 How are children involved in divorce proceedings? 27:58 The importance of trusting professionals 32:34 Top tips for parents going through court proceedings How to prepare for a Family Court hearing https://open.spotify.com/episode/0D2CMIP3GPVGAK4Q11ktYa?si=f816e49470ff4edb Single parenting, successfully https://youtu.be/UoMk44EPGzo?si=YJTTFyx6elXLnMyR Pathfinder Pilot https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/pathfinder-pilot-continues-to-put-children-first-in-the-family-court/ Family Justice Council Guidance on covert recordings https://www.judiciary.uk/guidance-and-resources/family-justice-council-guidance-on-covert-recordings-in-family-law-proceedings-concerning-children/ If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our email list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one place https://mailchi.mp/69a5d247d3ba/stowetalks 🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe Support https://bit.ly/41heUWN 🎧 Listen to our podcast on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/3L6VFcE 🎬 Watch on YouTube - https://bit.ly/3Mwa4wG Follow us on socials Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw X - https://twitter.com/StoweFamilyLaw LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1 If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one 🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe support. Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1 This podcast is brought to you by the Stowe talks team at Stowe Family Law - https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/

  • Aug 14, 2025 · 17 min

    Episode 62: Clean break vs maintenance - what's right for me?

    Sorting out your finances on divorce can be a confusing business. There’s a lot of jargon and it can be overwhelming when you’re first setting out. In this episode, Matt and Liza answer the question ‘what is a clean break’ and ‘what is maintenance’ in divorce, how to decide what’s going to be right in your unique situation and risks to be aware of. 00:45 What is a clean break order? 02:28 What are the different types of maintenance in a divorce settlement? 02:59 Exploring how child maintenance is calculated 03:48 Understanding when spousal maintenance can be claimed 09:02 Legitimate claims for spousal maintenance payments 10:05 How to get a clean break order 14:07 Unmarried partners and maintenance 15:01 What happens if you don’t get a clean break order? Do I need a financial settlement? https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/family-law/finance/do-i-need-a-financial-settlement/ What is a clean break order https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/family-law/finance/clean-break-orders/ My ex has a new partner. Can I cut my maintenance payments? https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/my-ex-wife-has-a-new-partner-can-i-cut-my-maintenance-payments/ Should I get a clean break or opt for spousal maintenance after divorce? https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/family-law/finance/clean-break-or-spousal-maintenance/ If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our email list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one place https://mailchi.mp/69a5d247d3ba/stowetalks 🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe Support https://bit.ly/41heUWN 🎧 Listen to our podcast on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/3L6VFcE 🎬 Watch on YouTube - https://bit.ly/3Mwa4wG Follow us on socials Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw X - https://twitter.com/StoweFamilyLaw LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1 If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one 🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe support. Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1 This podcast is brought to you by the Stowe talks team at Stowe Family Law - https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/

  • Aug 8, 2025 · 24 min

    Episode 61: Managing your money during divorce

    There is a great deal of misunderstanding, and taboo around finances, but it is a topic that will impact everyone going through a divorce. Going from one household to two, and splitting finances at the point of divorce can be tricky and stressful. In this episode, Liz Grimshaw, financial planner and co-founder of Revival Financial Planning, talks about how to manage your money during the divorce process, what happens to your money when you divorce and understanding the importance of long-term planning, and educating yourself about money. 01:42 Why it’s important for people to manage their money during divorce 02:49 The main financial worries people have at the beginning of divorce 06:00 Changing how you feel about money and how you use it 07:34 Pension sharing vs the family home 09:05 When’s the best time to approach a financial adviser? 10:47 Working with financial advisers and lawyers together 13:33 Understanding return on investment for advice 16:16 Starting again after divorce 17:25 The impact of money being a taboo topic 19:05 Managing money at the start of the process 23:06 Top tips for managing money during divorce Pensions and divorce https://youtu.be/2eubp2dUCrE?si=C8WBfszloCHq8aTY Ask a family lawyer https://open.spotify.com/episode/4Ql7uKEFMNpE8upJTWCrop?si=43e1aef212384728 Guide to reviewing your financial disclosure https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/premium-content/?type=guide&item=how-to-reviewing-your-financial-disclosure How to be financially prepared for divorce https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/top-tips-on-how-to-be-financially-prepared-for-divorce/ If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one 🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe support. Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1 This podcast is brought to you by the Stowe talks team at Stowe Family Law - https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/

  • Jul 25, 2025 · 40 min

    Episode 60: Walkaway Wife: women and divorce

    Walkaway wife syndrome has become an ever-more prominent phrase in the last few years, used to describe a woman who, after years of emotional neglect in her marriage, chooses to end the relationship. In this episode, Matt and Liza are joined by Liz Harrington, co-founder of Family Flow the Divorce Collective, alongside Susie Giles. Liz is an expert trauma therapist and coach. This podcast explores what causes walkaway wife syndrome, 'symptoms of a walkaway wife' both in women and men, and why people choose to leave a relationship that's not necessarily problematic to outside eyes. 02:31 Unpacking the phrase ‘walkaway wife’ and a silent divorce 05:24 The impact of gender roles and history 07:30 The importance of emotional intelligence in relationships 09:48 Women initiating divorce proceedings 11:40 Financial concerns for women in divorce 14:35 What to do if you’re having doubts in your relationship 17:56 How to help yourself - ‘what is good enough?’ 22:22 Working together 23:40 Social factors influencing relationships and gender roles 26:29 What to do if you’re the one being walked-away-from 29:17 The importance of communication and self-reflection 34.10 The legal implications 37:37 Top tips anyone in a walkaway wife situation Liz and Susie have very kindly set up a unique code for listeners to give you 20% off any service you purchase through their website. The code Stowe20 will give you 20% off. Family Flow The Divorce Collective is also offering you a free gift called 10 Steps to Successful Negotiations. This is a really useful support tool to help with the practical and emotional aspects of divorce negotiation. Break-up Club: A beginner’s guide to divorce http://bit.ly/3Imo1Af What is the best way to end your marriage http://bit.ly/3U1dlcO Handling the judgment of others during your divorce http://bit.ly/4lKlezd If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our email list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one place https://mailchi.mp/69a5d247d3ba/stowetalks 🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe Support https://bit.ly/41heUWN 🎧 Listen to our podcast on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/3L6VFcE 🎬 Watch on YouTube - https://bit.ly/3Mwa4wG Follow us on socials Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw X - https://twitter.com/StoweFamilyLaw LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1 If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one 🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe support. Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1 This podcast is brought to you by the Stowe talks team at Stowe Family Law - https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/

  • Jul 18, 2025 · 39 min

    Episode 59: Avoiding the top divorce mistakes

    Most people are new to divorce. It’s not something many of us have done before, and the whole thing can feel utterly overwhelming. The emotional and practical difficulties can lead to jumping in before we’re ready, making mistakes because we’re not thinking straight, and trying to get it all over with as quickly as possible. Whilst nobody wants to drag divorce out, one of the biggest mistakes Chloe Oudiz, a divorce and separation coach, sees, is rushing into decisions without getting the right advice or thinking things through. Matt and Liza welcome back Chloe for this episode on the top divorce mistakes and how to avoid them. A must-listen for those at the start of the process, or those working out their next steps. 01:45 The dangers of rushing into things 03:35 The first step in divorce 04:40 How do you know you’re ready to get divorced? 05:56 Misconceptions around divorce and finance 09:00 Detaching emotions from practicalities 16:42 Emotional resilience and wellbeing through divorce 19:46 Mistakes made in the legal process 25:45 The importance of being detailed and precise 29:35 Considering prenuptial agreements for second marriages 32.20 Financial disclosure and DIY divorce 34:19 Making a cost-value analysis 37:37 Top tips for avoiding common mistakes in divorce How to tell your friends and family about your divorce http://bit.ly/4kwUalU Ask a family lawyer - Live podcast http://bit.ly/4lGWfwx How to build resilience during divorce http://bit.ly/3Tyeetk Break-up Club: A beginner’s guide to divorce http://bit.ly/3Imo1Af If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our email list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one place https://mailchi.mp/69a5d247d3ba/stowetalks 🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe Support https://bit.ly/41heUWN 🎧 Listen to our podcast on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/3L6VFcE 🎬 Watch on YouTube - https://bit.ly/3Mwa4wG Follow us on socials Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw X - https://twitter.com/StoweFamilyLaw LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1 If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one 🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe support. Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1 This podcast is brought to you by the Stowe talks team at Stowe Family Law - https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/

  • Jul 11, 2025 · 39 min

    Episode 58: Navigating divorce with SEND children

    Divorcing when you have children comes with complications - where will they live, how much time does each parent get, how do you have the least amount of impact on their normal everyday lives. But if you have a special educational needs child, these complexities can seem almost insurmountable. In this special episode, Stowe talks teamed up with Smart divorce for a collaborative podcast. Matt Taylor and leading financial planner Tamsin Caine welcomed Rhiannon Gogh, an award winning chartered financial adviser and founder of PlanIt Future, a financial service for the parents and carers of SEND children. The team discussed financially planning in divorce when you have an SEND child, where the main challenges are and where to find help. You can buy Rhiannon's book 'Planning with Love' on Amazon (https://www.amazon.co.uk/Planning-Love-Parents-Children-Special/dp/1068592575) or Waterstones (https://www.waterstones.com/book/planning-with-love/rhiannon-gogh/9781068592577) 03:02 Special Educational Needs and Disability statistics 04:20 Challenges faced by families with SEND children 07:25 Tackling the long-term financial challenges of SEND children 09:56 What to consider when looking at your financial future 12:50 Extra complexities of divorce with SEND children 14:48 Legal aspects of parenting after divorce and impact on SEND children 17:30 Financial challenges on divorce 20:13 Legal and financial planning around for the family home in divorce 22:58 Available financial support 25:48 The law’s approach to dividing assets on divorce where SEND children are involved 27:45 Planning for short, medium and long term needs after divorce 31:47 What professionals can help and how 36:00 Top tips Supporting neurodivergent children through divorce https://youtu.be/Wyuv-sFlRT4?si=tqjo2OWeSEZlSE-A How to get a child arrangements order https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YRnaUVqn95c How to support children through divorce https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2023/08/Client-Guide-How-to-support-children-through-divorc.pdf If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our email list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one place https://mailchi.mp/69a5d247d3ba/stowetalks 🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe Support https://bit.ly/41heUWN 🎧 Listen to our podcast on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/3L6VFcE 🎬 Watch on YouTube - https://bit.ly/3Mwa4wG Follow us on socials Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw X - https://twitter.com/StoweFamilyLaw LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1 If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one 🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe support. Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1 This podcast is brought to you by the Stowe talks team at Stowe Family Law - https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/

  • Jul 4, 2025 · 50 min

    Episode 57: Ask a family lawyer - LIVE

    Stowe talks goes live! Our first ever live podcast opened up Matt and Liza to audience questions for the first time. Family law covers a huge range of issues surrounding the breakdown, and building up, of families. Everything from divorce and separation, to surrogacy and IVF laws. In this episode, Matt and Liza answered a variety of questions, everything from how long does divorce take, to what to do with an uncommunicative ex-spouse, to financial arrangements and pensions to child matters to international divorce. 02:00 How long does it take to get divorced? 03:35 What to do about an ex making the process difficult 05:28 Cost of divorce 06:09 Timelines of a financial settlement 08:29 Should I leave the family home? 08:40 Buying a new property mid-financial negotiations 11:04 Can you prejudice your financial position? 12:35 Impact of financial contributions during the marriage 15:19 Family home and divorce 18:59 Living with a difficult ex 20:27 Matrimonial vs non matrimonial assets 24:32 Pensions in divorce 31:42 Maintenance during and after proceedings 36:25 What happens if someone is not compliant with court orders? 40:00 Can you reopen a financial order? 41:24 The remarriage trap 42:50 Overseas assets 43:18 Step children and divorce 43:50 Claims against property owned by a third party 45:08 Is expected inheritance part of the matrimonial pot? 46:43 How are businesses split in divorce? 47:56 Solicitor vs litigant in person - impact on outcome Break-up Club - A beginner's guide to divorce https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jqAGVYY61bw&t=2s How to get divorced https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/family-law/divorce/how-to-get-divorced/ How is inheritance dealt with in divorce https://open.spotify.com/episode/76eAKtJuIEm3ALk7EOqzy9?si=52744ee0ebf648f4 Do I need a financial settlement? Find other support at https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/ If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our email list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one place https://mailchi.mp/69a5d247d3ba/stowetalks 🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe Support https://bit.ly/41heUWN 🎧 Listen to our podcast on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/3L6VFcE 🎬 Watch on YouTube - https://bit.ly/3Mwa4wG Follow us on socials Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw X - https://twitter.com/StoweFamilyLaw LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1 If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one 🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe support. Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1 This podcast is brought to you by the Stowe talks team at Stowe Family Law - https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/