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Last Date · September 9 · 57 min

When Someone Comes On Strong—Then Pulls Away

In this episode of Last Date, I sit down with Alexa to unpack a string of recent dating experiences that left her asking the same question: How do you know when someone's early interest is actually real? Alexa tells me about a man she met who seemed to be doing everything right. He was consistent, intentional, excited to see her, introduced her to his friends, and made some surprisingly big statements about where he saw things going. At first, his actions seemed to back up his words...until they didn't. We unpack what happened, the moments Alexa now sees differently in hindsight, and how difficult it can be to distinguish genuine intention from the excitement and intensity of a new connection. We also discuss: - A bizarre encounter with a man who wanted to cuddle before they'd even gone on a date - Why Alexa dates far more in Austin than she does in Chicago - Why dating apps can create a “grass is greener” mentality - And how a good conversation can create attraction for men who aren't classically handsome. How much should you trust what someone shows you at the beginning—and how long does it take to find out who they really are? Follow this channel for future conversations about modern dating and relationships. Follow on Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/4UxCPDRQmJuQXLXIM7srrI Follow Alexa: https://www.tiktok.com/@lifewithlex444 https://www.instagram.com/@lifewlex444 Follow Danny on Instagram for clips and insights:⁠ https://www.instagram.com/lastdatepodcast https://www.instagram.com/cruxcompatible

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In this episode of Last Date, I sit down with Alexa to unpack a string of recent dating experiences that left her asking the same question: How do you know when someone's early interest is actually real?


Alexa tells me about a man she met who seemed to be doing everything right. He was consistent, intentional, excited to see her, introduced her to his friends, and made some surprisingly big statements about where he saw things going.


At first, his actions seemed to back up his words...until they didn't.


We unpack what happened, the moments Alexa now sees differently in hindsight, and how difficult it can be to distinguish genuine intention from the excitement and intensity of a new connection.


We also discuss:

- A bizarre encounter with a man who wanted to cuddle before they'd even gone on a date

- Why Alexa dates far more in Austin than she does in Chicago

- Why dating apps can create a “grass is greener” mentality

- And how a good conversation can create attraction for men who aren't classically handsome.

How much should you trust what someone shows you at the beginning—and how long does it take to find out who they really are?


Follow this channel for future conversations about modern dating and relationships.


Follow on Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/4UxCPDRQmJuQXLXIM7srrI


Follow Alexa:

https://www.tiktok.com/@lifewithlex444

https://www.instagram.com/@lifewlex444

Follow Danny on Instagram for clips and insights:⁠

https://www.instagram.com/lastdatepodcast

https://www.instagram.com/cruxcompatible