A Relationship Scientist Explains Modern Dating

For the past year, I've been sitting down with singles and talking about how they're navigating modern dating. And the same questions keep coming up. Why does someone come on incredibly strong, only to suddenly pull away? Why do people behave like they're in relationships but refuse to define them? How much should we trust the “spark”? So I traveled to New York to sit down with Dr. Marisa Cohen, a relationship scientist, psychology professor, and licensed marriage and family therapist, to find out what the research actually says about the things my guests have been experiencing. We discuss: Why people “love bomb” Why situationships are so difficult to navigate When to have the “what are we?” conversation Where our dating preferences and dealbreakers come from Whether there is truth behind “if he wanted to, he would” The growing backlash against coffee and walking dates What you should really be looking for on a first date How to give the “spark” a nudge Vulnerability versus trauma dumping Why people prefer to stay “pen pals” on dating apps instead of actually meeting What people lie about on dating apps How dating-app filters may cause us to eliminate people we'd actually be attracted to in real life Modern dating comes with no shortage of rules, theories, TikTok terminology, and conflicting advice. But what does relationship science actually tell us about how attraction, compatibility, and relationships work? Follow this channel for future conversations about modern dating and relationships. Follow on YouTube: ⁠ https://www.youtube.com/@lastdatepodcast Follow Danny on Instagram for clips and insights: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lastdatepodcast https://www.instagram.com/cruxcompatible Follow Dr. Marisa Cohen: https://www.instagram.com/marisatcohen https://www.marisatcohen.com/