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Hold On, What Was I Saying? · April 13 · 34 min

Are People With ADHD Attention Seekers? The Truth About Validation, Lying and the Need to Be Liked

"Have you ever been called an attention seeker?" — we opened with that question and honestly, neither of us could deny it. In this week's episode, We get into one of the most misunderstood labels attached to ADHD. Yes, a lot of us are attention seekers. But the real question is why — and whether that term is even fair. We break down the neuroscience behind it (spoiler: it comes back to dopamine, always), share some genuinely unhinged childhood stories — including Emily's Britain's Got Talent lie and Megan convincing a kid on holiday she could speak Greek — and get into the deeper stuff: why ADHD brains are wired to seek validation, how RSD plays into it, the masks we wear to be liked, and why we're still cringing at things we said at the work Christmas party three years ago. Because here's the reframe that matters: we're not seeking attention. We're seeking connection. And once you understand the difference, you can start giving yourself a little more grace for the ways your brain tries to regulate itself. This one's funny, honest, a little bit chaotic, and very, very relatable. 🎙️ New episodes every week — follow so you never miss one. 📲 Come chat with us on Instagram — we want to know, have YOU ever been called an attention seeker?

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"Have you ever been called an attention seeker?" — we opened with that question and honestly, neither of us could deny it.

In this week's episode, We get into one of the most misunderstood labels attached to ADHD. Yes, a lot of us are attention seekers. But the real question is why — and whether that term is even fair.

We break down the neuroscience behind it (spoiler: it comes back to dopamine, always), share some genuinely unhinged childhood stories — including Emily's Britain's Got Talent lie and Megan convincing a kid on holiday she could speak Greek — and get into the deeper stuff: why ADHD brains are wired to seek validation, how RSD plays into it, the masks we wear to be liked, and why we're still cringing at things we said at the work Christmas party three years ago.

Because here's the reframe that matters: we're not seeking attention. We're seeking connection. And once you understand the difference, you can start giving yourself a little more grace for the ways your brain tries to regulate itself.

This one's funny, honest, a little bit chaotic, and very, very relatable.

🎙️ New episodes every week — follow so you never miss one.

📲 Come chat with us on Instagram — we want to know, have YOU ever been called an attention seeker?


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