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Not All Pain Has a Purpose | Marisa Renee Lee

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What if the kindest thing someone told you about your pain was that it didn't have to mean anything?


Marisa Renee Lee has spent her career inside other people's grief and her own. She's the bestselling author of Grief Is Love, a former deputy director in the Obama White House, and now CEO of Beacon Advisors. Her new book, Waiting for Dawn, comes out of her own experience with chronic illness, and it argues against nearly every wellness cliché about turning pain into purpose.


In this conversation, you'll explore:





  • Why Marisa refuses to promise anyone that their suffering serves a purpose, even her own family's
  • "Gray grief": a name for the grief that has no end date, no diagnosis, and no cultural script
  • The difference between identity (what you built) and essence (what's still there when it's gone)
  • Why she calls hope a discipline, not a feeling, and what that looks like on the worst days
  • How her family held onto hope through her aunt's most devastating loss, and what happened after


If you've ever felt ashamed for not finding the silver lining in something genuinely hard, this conversation is your permission to put that pressure down.


You can find Marisa at: Website | Instagram | Holding Both Substack | Episode Transcript


Next week, we're sitting down with Dr. Niobe Way to talk about why so many of us feel lonelier than ever even when we're surrounded by people, and what decades of research say is actually driving it. Be sure to follow Good Life Project wherever you get your podcasts so you don’t miss any upcoming episodes!


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