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Extraordinary Creatives · Wednesday · 17 min

How to ask for what you need without becoming 'The Difficult One'

'I don't want them to think I'm difficult.' I've heard that sentence more times than I can count, usually about four minutes after somebody has told me the best news of their year. They’ve landed a gig, an exhibition, commission. The residency they've wanted since art school. We celebrate, then the room goes quiet, and out it comes. What they're worried about is never the work. It's the hundred emails from eleven different people wanting an answer that afternoon. The day of travel with nothing after it. The meet and greet with thirty people on arrival. Whether there will be somewhere to sit down for ten minutes. Whether the biggest decisions will land on the day they have the least energy. If you have ever done that arithmetic before saying yes, this episode is for you, because I want to give you something better than hoping it will be fine. Last week, I talked about my own experience of chronic fatigue and learning the conditions that let me flourish. That was the part we have some influence over. This part is harder, because it involves asking somebody else for something so we can work at our best. By the end, you will understand why asking feels so hard and how to do it without appearing “difficult to work with”. KEY TAKEAWAYS Most artists need certain conditions to do their best work e.g. ramp access, a day of rest between public events or meal breaks at particular times. But many worry that asking for “special” arrangements will make them seem difficult and affect future opportunities. Hiding the conditions you need comes at a cost. The energy you spend worrying about what people will think could be channelled into your work. An access rider gives artists a way to put their needs in writing before you're tired or under pressure. Every artist should consider writing one, whether they would describe themselves as disabled or not. BEST MOMENTS “When an artist told me early in writing exactly what they needed in order to do their best work, my honest reaction was relief, not irritation.” “The thing that actually frightens a producer isn't somebody with access requirements. It's discovering something on the morning of the install that could have been solved six weeks earlier with one phone call.” “You don't have to disclose a medical condition to anybody. In most countries, you're not obliged to, and a rider works perfectly well without one.” PODCAST HOST BIO With over 35 years in the art world, Ceri has worked closely with leading artists and arts professionals, managed public and private galleries and charities, and curated more than 250 exhibitions and events. She has sold artworks to major museums and private collectors and commissioned thousands of works across diverse media, from renowned artists such as John Akomfrah, Pipilotti Rist, Rafael Lozano-Hemmer and Vito Acconci. Now, she wants to share her extensive knowledge with you, so you can excel and achieve your goals. **** Ceri Hand Coaching Membership: Group coaching, live art surgeries, exclusive masterclasses, portfolio reviews, weekly challenges. Access our library of content and resource hub anytime and enjoy special discounts within a vibrant community of peers and professionals. Ready to transform your art career? Join today! https://cerihand.com/membership/ **** Unlock Your Artworld Network Self Study Course Our self-study video course, "Unlock Your Artworld Network," offers a straightforward 5-step framework to help you build valuable relationships effortlessly. Gain the tools and confidence you need to create new opportunities and thrive in the art world today. https://cerihand.com/courses/unlock_your_artworld_network/ **** Book a Discovery Call Today To schedule a personalised 1-2-1 coaching session with Ceri or explore our group coaching options, simply email us at hello@cerihand.com **** Discover Your Extraordinary Creativity Visit www.cerihand.com to learn how we can help you become an extraordinary creative. This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

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'I don't want them to think I'm difficult.'

I've heard that sentence more times than I can count, usually about four minutes after somebody has told me the best news of their year. They’ve landed a gig, an exhibition, commission. The residency they've wanted since art school. We celebrate, then the room goes quiet, and out it comes.

What they're worried about is never the work. It's the hundred emails from eleven different people wanting an answer that afternoon. The day of travel with nothing after it. The meet and greet with thirty people on arrival. Whether there will be somewhere to sit down for ten minutes. Whether the biggest decisions will land on the day they have the least energy.

If you have ever done that arithmetic before saying yes, this episode is for you, because I want to give you something better than hoping it will be fine.

Last week, I talked about my own experience of chronic fatigue and learning the conditions that let me flourish. That was the part we have some influence over.

This part is harder, because it involves asking somebody else for something so we can work at our best. By the end, you will understand why asking feels so hard and how to do it without appearing “difficult to work with”.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

  • Most artists need certain conditions to do their best work e.g. ramp access, a day of rest between public events or meal breaks at particular times. But many worry that asking for “special” arrangements will make them seem difficult and affect future opportunities.

  • Hiding the conditions you need comes at a cost. The energy you spend worrying about what people will think could be channelled into your work.

  • An access rider gives artists a way to put their needs in writing before you're tired or under pressure. Every artist should consider writing one, whether they would describe themselves as disabled or not.

BEST MOMENTS

“When an artist told me early in writing exactly what they needed in order to do their best work, my honest reaction was relief, not irritation.”

“The thing that actually frightens a producer isn't somebody with access requirements. It's discovering something on the morning of the install that could have been solved six weeks earlier with one phone call.”

“You don't have to disclose a medical condition to anybody. In most countries, you're not obliged to, and a rider works perfectly well without one.”

PODCAST HOST BIO

With over 35 years in the art world, Ceri has worked closely with leading artists and arts professionals, managed public and private galleries and charities, and curated more than 250 exhibitions and events. She has sold artworks to major museums and private collectors and commissioned thousands of works across diverse media, from renowned artists such as John Akomfrah, Pipilotti Rist, Rafael Lozano-Hemmer and Vito Acconci. Now, she wants to share her extensive knowledge with you, so you can excel and achieve your goals.

****

Ceri Hand Coaching Membership: Group coaching, live art surgeries, exclusive masterclasses, portfolio reviews, weekly challenges. Access our library of content and resource hub anytime and enjoy special discounts within a vibrant community of peers and professionals. Ready to transform your art career? Join today!

https://cerihand.com/membership/

****

Unlock Your Artworld Network Self Study Course

Our self-study video course, "Unlock Your Artworld Network," offers a straightforward 5-step framework to help you build valuable relationships effortlessly. Gain the tools and confidence you need to create new opportunities and thrive in the art world today.

https://cerihand.com/courses/unlock_your_artworld_network/

****

Book a Discovery Call Today

To schedule a personalised 1-2-1 coaching session with Ceri or explore our group coaching options, simply email us at hello@cerihand.com

****

Discover Your Extraordinary Creativity

Visit www.cerihand.com to learn how we can help you become an extraordinary creative.

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

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