Crash Out With Me: When The Strong One Breaks

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One day you’re traveling for work, celebrating the mission, and showing up as the person everyone depends on. The next day, it’s a Zoom invite, a cold script, no severance, and benefits ending at midnight. That’s where Monikka Mann and I start and we don’t look away from what a layoff like that does to your body, your confidence, and your sense of safety in a brutal job market.

Monikka is a two-time Stanford grad with an engineering background and a PhD path, plus the kind of “think on your feet” presence that’s literally won her game shows. None of that protects you from a system that can auto-reject your applications, punish you for short startup stints, or treat experienced talent as “too senior.” We talk about why being the fixer becomes identity, how servant leadership gets misunderstood by executives, and why so many of us keep asking smart questions about cash flow and runway only to be dismissed until the crash arrives.

We also go deeper than work. We name career grief, family grief, and the invisible load of being the strong one at home and in the community, especially for Black women. We get honest about healthcare anxiety, the guilt that shows up when rest feels “indulgent,” and what burnout looks like physically when rejection emails keep coming. You’ll also hear what Monikka is looking for next, including remote-friendly chief of staff and program leadership roles where operations, communication, and deep tech translation matter.

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