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"What actually hurts us as humans is expectation. You create your own lust—it takes two to sprinkle a little stardust on the routine." Welcome back to Chapter Two, Episode Eight of Conversations with Candice! We are just two episodes away from closing out our chapter on Love & Relationships, and today’s episode delivers some of our most passionate, unfiltered debates yet. CHAPTER THREE HOUSEKEEPING REMINDER: Starting in Chapter Three, full-length video episodes are moving exclusively behind a paid paywall on Substack! Free audio will always remain 30 minutes on all podcast networks (Spotify, Apple, Acast), but the full 1-hour video experience, deep dives, exclusive monthly live sessions, and closed group chat will live solely on Substack. Inside the Dilemma Inbox today: Dilemma 1 (Starting a PhD & The Silent Husband): A listener starting her PhD after 10 years of putting her family first feels crushed by her husband's lack of enthusiasm. Candice and Bode unpack the "invisible labour" that holds up a home, male competition, "negging", and why unmet expectations open the gates for pain. Dilemma 2 ("I've Fallen Out of Lust" After 16 Years): Married with three kids, feeling like roommates, and losing the spicy spark. Candice questions why men let themselves go, prompting Bode to passionately push back on male mental health, financial stress, and patriarchal expectations. Creating Your Own Lust: How predictability kills desire and why you have to work with the "Polestar 4" in your yard! No experts, no perfection. Just real conversations about life as we're actually living it. 📚 READ & JOIN US ON SUBSTACK Join the inner circle on Substack to catch full 1-hour video episodes in Chapter 3, exclusive articles, and private chat groups: Substack Profile: https://candicebrathwaite.substack.com 🔗 LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE ACROSS CHANNELS Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6ifcRNeOOcHOgovuhk9i2K?si=6c87234b263c4547 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/conversations-with-candice/id1882427274 Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.co.uk/podcasts/54f972c1-650d-401a-8418-cf499de44b24/conversations-with-candice Acast RSS Feed: https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/conversations-with-candice 📱 FOLLOW CANDICE ON SOCIALS Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/candicebrathwaite TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@candicebrathwaite 🎬 PRODUCTION NOTES & CREDITS Produced by: Undeniable Productions Executive Produced by: Candice Brathwaite Aboderin and Bode Aboderin Enjoyed this episode? Subscribe so you never miss a conversation. Conversations with Candice is hosted by two-time Sunday Times bestselling author and cultural commentator Candice Brathwaite. New episodes every week. Get in touch: contact@conversationswithcandicepodcast.com Listen on Acast: https://shows.acast.com/conversations-with-candice Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/@conversationswithcandicepod Follow Candice: Instagram: @candicebrathwaite TikTok: @candicebrathwaite If you love the show, please leave a review, it really helps others find us. Remain Unrealistic. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.