A Different Way to Divorce: Collaborative Practice with Kara Ockendon

What if decisions surrounding separation and divorce could be collaborative? When your relationship has been impacted by betrayal, the prospect of separation or divorce can feel overwhelming. Alongside the grief and uncertainty, there may be difficult decisions about finances, parenting and the future. And the thought of entering an adversarial legal process can add another layer of distress. In this episode of Confident Again, I'm joined by Kara Ockendon, former family lawyer, separation and divorce coach, and collaborative practice facilitator, to explore a different approach. Collaborative practice brings together lawyers, coaches and other professionals to help separating couples work towards agreements in a more transparent, supported and less adversarial environment. Together, we explore: What collaborative practice is and how it differs from mediation and traditional legal proceedings. How a team of professionals can support both parties through difficult decisions. The possibilities for more creative, family-centred outcomes. What happens when previously undisclosed information comes to light during separation. The importance of screening for coercive control, abuse and genuine willingness to participate. The potential benefits and risks of choosing a collaborative approach. We also discuss why getting support early, understanding your options and building the right team can make such a difference when you're contemplating separation. Separation may mark the end of a relationship, but it doesn't have to mean the end of hope for your future. Please note: Collaborative practice is not appropriate for every situation, particularly where there is ongoing abuse, coercive control or an unwillingness to engage honestly. If this is your experience, please prioritise your safety and seek appropriate professional support. This conversation is for educational purposes and does not constitute legal advice. Send Jane a note Support the show Connect with Jane at Quiet Wisdom Check out Reclaim your Confidence Group Support Disclaimer: The content shared on Confident Again is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended to provide medical, psychological, therapeutic, legal or other professional advice, diagnosis or treatment, and should not be used as a substitute for individualised support from an appropriately qualified professional. The experiences, perspectives and opinions shared by guests are their own and do not necessarily represent the views of Jane Gibb or Quiet Wisdom. Every person and situation is different, and listeners are encouraged to seek professional support appropriate to their own circumstances. If you are experiencing significant distress, trauma symptoms, concerns about safety, or compulsive or addictive sexual behaviour, please seek support from a suitably qualified health or mental health professional.