395: Why You Keep Overreacting + How to Regulate Your Nervous System | Jonny Miller

In this episode, I sit down with nervous system expert Jonny Miller to explore how emotional regulation shapes our relationships, health, parenting, and overall well being. Jonny shares the deeply personal story that led him into this work after the loss of his fiancée, and explains why avoiding emotions often creates more suffering than allowing yourself to feel them. 

Together, we discuss emotional debt, grief, somatic awareness, breathwork, nervous system regulation, parenting under stress, and practical tools for building resilience. You'll learn why emotions are meant to move through the body, how to recognize signs of dysregulation, and simple practices that can help you respond with more calm, presence, and connection.

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Topics Discussed:

→ How do you regulate your nervous system?

→ What is emotional debt?

→ Can breathwork reduce anxiety?

→ Why do we avoid difficult emotions?

→ How do you process grief in a healthy way?

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Timestamps:

→ 00:00:00 - Introduction→ 00:01:51 - Nervous System Mastery→ 00:04:05 - Suicide + Grief→ 00:13:21 - Feel Your Feelings→ 00:14:56 - Defining Emotions→ 00:16:45 - Mental Loops→ 00:18:53 - Nervous System Regulation→ 00:22:42 - Psychosomatic Response→ 00:28:01 - Traumatic Birth→ 00:31:22 - Emotional Hygiene→ 00:32:49 - Breathwork + Co-Regulation→ 00:38:47 - Exercise + Mental Health→ 00:43:48 - Beginner Emotional Regulation→ 00:45:47 - Different Types of Breathwork→ 00:47:15 - Breathwork Tutorial→ 00:50:21 - Intention Setting→ 00:52:22 - Reactive Nervous System→ 00:54:36 - Parenting + Emotional Regulation→ 00:57:37 - Gratitude + Unpleasant Emotions→ 01:00:46 - Fear of Death→ 01:04:20 - The Pressures of Entrepreneurship→ 01:09:29 - Goal Setting→ 01:13:43 - Clarified Desire→ 01:16:26 - Root Wants + Needs→ 01:19:39 - Decreasing Tension→ 01:23:46 - Watching Your Kids Struggle→ 01:25:11 - Closing Thoughts

Further Listening: 

→ Why You Feel Stuck: Trauma Patterns, Self-Worth + Nervous System Healing

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